I don't really have any advice other than what the other ladies have suggested. Just intrigued with the adoption work that you do?
I don't really have any advice other than what the other ladies have suggested. Just intrigued with the adoption work that you do?
I am a social worker, I do contracted home assessments for Adoptions, foster care, kin care, etc. I love that work, just isn't always steady enough to be full time
I would definitely not hold them to that date if they found a replacement center earlier. My understanding is that they discipline the older child, baby is still tiny and cute and gets let off the hook for the most part. The lack of social respect is just so frustrating, as all the other kids get it and can interact nicely with each other. These two are just brutes, which was nice in some ways as they would trip and get up without a fuss, but they also are so rough with the other kids.
After thinking about it all, and the days where I did not have these two and how much calmer the house was, I think it is this sibling group that is the source of my bad mood. When I just have my other 4, everyone gets along, there is hardly any crying, everyone has good naps....it is just a different house. I think cutting my group to 4 kids and getting rid of these two is the way to goQuote:
Originally Posted by Crayola kiddies
I think it is just your group of kids. I have had a bit of changeover in the past while and without one boy that I used to have things are so much better. I have more interest in playing with the kids, doing arts/crafts and have begun to enjoy my days more.
I totally get that !!!!! I had a dcb last year that was just a handful and he was off sick for a whole week and it was like the light went on .... 2-week notice was given when they returned and what a relief it was ....... I didn't realize what a nightmare it was until he wasn't here for a week .... I was calm, and stress free and I think I might have even smiled once or twice. It's been smooth sailing ever since. They have come to visit in the evenings twice since then and he turns my playroom right upside down and it reminds me all over again what my days were like. The next day I give my current dcks an extra hug or two.Quote:
Originally Posted by eoinsmom
So we had a couple good days last week (Thursday dcb was in preschool for the morning, and Friday my other two didn't show up so I had less kids) and decided to wait and see how the rest of the month played out before making a final decision on these two siblings.....well, its been temper tantrums every day from the 3 yr old this week :( Yesterday he even had to leave preschool. The teacher asked him to come out of the playhouse and I guess he started a full on cry/whine, and then told the teacher he was sick and needed to go home!! So I got called and had to go pick him up, and miraculously he was feeling better as soon as we got back to my house. Mom had been called by the preschool too, and I filled her in on what I had been told by the teacher, and informed her that he now was saying he felt just fine and had asked to watch tv and have a snack. In my house, if you say you are sick and have to leave school, you go to bed, no tv and no playing with friends. Told mom my thoughts were he didn't get his way and used the 'sick' excuse, mentioning the temper tantrums this past few weeks whenever he has been told no or asked to do something. Mom agreed and says its the same at home, and yep, put him in bed. So he spent all day in bed yesterday at my house, and was not happy. This morning, who shows up throwing a tantrum before he's even in the door? Apparently mad that dad walked him up to the door instead of mom. I was going to take him and his sister out this morning while the others are in school, but no way is that happening now. Mom is saying that he is upset and throwing fits because she was away for 4 days last week on a holiday and he misses her. I am just dumbfounded that a 3 year old used the I'm sick line to get out of school. :ohmy:
My contract states that if a child is too sick for school then they are too sick for daycare. It's not your job to go get him from school ... That's what parents are for. If he is as bad as you say then for sure the school would be happy to get rid of him for the day. No wonder you are stressed out ! One of the many reasons I don't do school age care anymore..... Once they hit school age they go elsewhere. Simple
I don't do school age once they are in kindergarten, did not have good experiences with 6/7 year olds. This is preschool, which I accomodate as long as parents arrange transportation to/from. I have a feeling the teacher wanted to get rid of him yesterday too, and likely asked him if he felt sick and needed her to call mom. just having a snack now and baby sister looked at me then threw her cup at me. Its been two months of me consistently taking her out of her chair the second she throws food or her cup and she still does it. Honestly these kids are the toughest I've had. They both still throw tantrums at nap time, wake up early and scream every day; I've had to just move them to the farthest room from the other kids as they don't stop even with verbal reprimands and removal of privileges . I've never had things go on this long before, its been two months and they are full time kids, so no part time excuse. DCB even came the whole last year part time while mom was on mat leave.
and if he had actually been sick, I would have sent him home. Once I assessed him and realized he was not in fact ill, but just wanted to leave school I didn't think rewarding the behaviour by letting him go home would help anyone. I don't know, he's not my child but it really irked me that this incident happened and I wanted him to have some kind of consequence for the behaviour.