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One of my kids has been driving me NUTS lately.
She's my little micro manager, she can be bossy to the other kids, won't stop talking, wants constant attention. She's annoying me. Honestly, she's becoming exhausting.
I love this kid with all my heart but I feel like I need a vacation from her.
I need stories to know I'm not the only one who feels this way at times.
Haha, sounds like my daughter right now. She has an ear infection and is constantly whining, is always bossing the little ones around (when she decides to play with them), doesn't want them touching any of the toys, and constantly wants me to pay attention to just her.
Thankfully, she gets to spend time with just me when they nap (she's 3 and doesn't nap). Hopefully this is just a phase that ends quickly. I don't give into her (attention wise), I let her know that I have to pay attention to everyone, not just her. Doesn't help that ALL my dck's are fighting colds and teething right now (ugh... I hate molars).
Hugs to you!
haha, as the saying goes there is one in every bunch. I have one like that too. She's a mini mom at daycare. Most days its great. She keeps the other little ones in check and reminds them what they can and cannot do :) She can be bossy too, but I just remind her that she is the oldest and she has to teach them. She's also old enough (2.5) that I can tell her Michelle just needs a minute to herself, so how about you finish colouring your picture or something along those lines. Most days she will accept that and give me a few minutes...other days she won't leave my side and wants me to know whenever someone is doing something they shouldn't be (even though I'm in the room and can see it lol).
We all have days where we need a vacation from certain little ones. Its normal. Even the parents tell me somedays that they are dropping her off and just having a day without her because she is driving them nuts!
Just think, tomorrow is friday!!!!!! :) Your not alone that's for sure!
I have one too! She shows me everything... Look Look... That's all I hear all day. A huge attention getter. I sometimes wonder if anyone actually talks to her at home. She's high energy and gets worse when she's sleepy. Just drives me crazy. I end up falling into " yes... uh huh... ok... yes... uh huh... ok... " and so on. And she's not even 2 so I can only really undersstand half of what she says. I feel your frustration.
I was just going to vent about the little guy I have now. You are definitely not alone. He just turned two and I have been caring for him for a year. He was tough right from the start. From needing to be sleep trained (still rocked with a bottle to sleep at 14 months), to wanting to be picked up all the time. Now it's all about MINE and pushing, hitting and taunting the other 2 year old I watch. I have always had a tough time with his sleeping habits. NOW he's starting to climb out of his playpen and doesn't want to sleep or do any quiet activities. I've tried lullaby's, staying in the room, he eventually falls asleep but shortly after wakes and wants to be put back to sleep. I don't have time to be constantly calming him down for quiet time.
I just get really get exhausted with this one. Makes me want to get out of this business when one child makes it so hard to get through the day
I feel for you! I don't have any like that right now (except my own son sometimes..lol), but I had one in the past. Life has been ever so peaceful since she left. Only, she was more than just annoying...you can't really terminate based on "annoying". Hang in there! I hope it gets better!
Oh - ya cut yourself some slack on the guilty part ... if I had a nickle for all the days that one child or another over the years who literally drove me to drink after work I would be RETIRED ... in hindsight I should have bought me some shares in Bailey's :yes:
Children are HUMAN BEINGS just like any adult on the planet just SMALLER - you would not think twice about venting about your spouse or a coworker who was pushing your buttons over something .... no different with a child!
They all have personality issues, temperament issues and well just 'days' were you would love to sell them to the Gypsy's for a bag of chips cause they are just dragging on every fibre of your being!
Sorry but if someone is telling you they have NEVER had a moment where they did not LIKE their OWN child for one reason or another let alone a strangers child IMO they are full of it .... every human being has those 'moments and stages' where their behaviour is well less than desirable heck I bet GANDHI gave his mother a run for her money some days!
Ahhh Reggio...you never fail to make me laugh, nod my head vigourously and give thanks for your posts all at once :) You are exactly right...we are human...no matter how much we care about the kids and love our job, we all have moments where we feel we will go completely insane by the end of the day...and then we get to the end of the day and find we have a little piece of sanity left after all, so we get up the next day and try it again ;)
Reading that, I thought one of my little ones was somehow at your place!
Reggio, you made me laugh, too. That's what red wine is for! I always say I'm not going to have a glass during the week, but somehow there's ALWAYS a reason! :laugh:
She's giving me a freakin' tick here. My Eyes start to twitch every time I hear '_________ I just want to tell you something'.
I have made a new rule in my that if you have a bit of free time you must FIND SOMETHING TO PLAY WITH. Following me around the house is punishable by LAW.
I'm so CONSTANTLY redirecting her I feel like I'm starting to get mean and drill-sergeantish. I hate that feeling.
Oh count me in :) I have one 18 month old she doesn't talk yet(thank god:)) but I'm exausting myself telling her not to bang TV. and window, stop throwing food on the floor, don't touch the fire place(it is off but warm as pilot is on), stop chewing the books, don't put your hands in your mouth, chew please, first finish your mouth, please hold the spoon like this oh the list goes on and on and on. I love her and the things she does makes me laugh but when her mother tells me that she wants to keep her at home, I try not to show her how happy I'm :)) She can be a lot of work:))
So you are not alone.:)
Oh it's so true that the personalities on these little maniacs can drive you up a wall and we see so many different personalities in the children over the years. I had the tattletale-look-at-me-nonstop-narrator little girl for years and whew, she's gone.
Now I have a bipolar baby boy who can cry like he's dying for 2 seconds then one of the other children catches his attention and he's laughing out loud. It's gotten so I don't even look at him when he cries now and some day I'm going to regret that because when I look over I'll probably see blood. It's bound to happen, but the crying is the same for everything so how can I know?
I must have done something horrible in a past life because I ended up having two of these types of kids here at the same time. One couldn't stop moving and talking EVER. She would keep talking at naptime until she fell asleep. One second it's "blah blah blah" and then nothing. I always said"Oh someone turned off her switch, she's crashed". As soon as her eyes were open, so was her mouth. NON FREAKING STOP. She couldn't stand still either. I was convinced she has an inner ear problem. She literally moved like Mumble from Happy Feet. She would fall over every couple of minutes, and ended up on top of most of our group at one point during the day, every day. To top it off, she was over 40 lbs, so it really hurt. I was on the receiving end of that falling tower on several occasions. The day her mom gave me notice that she was going to a preschool was the day I did a happy jig throughout my house. It worked out so well, because earlier that same day I was telling a provider friend about the many issues we had with this little girl and was seriously considering terming her. The gods must have been listening because 6 hours later I got their notice. Our group is much happier without her. She was a violent little devil too. I called her "the 5-2 punch". She was 2 and a half years old and would punch everyone 5 times when she didn't get her way.
At the same time all this drama was going on I was transitioning a 14 month old. He came to me with no sleep routine, no guidance, no nothing. Lucky for me he was only with me for 8 weeks until his center spot opened up. He was a disaster. All that kid did was whine...alllllllllll llllllllll day every day. He had no idea how to be happy. He also had a bum rash the whole 8 weeks he was with me, and had a yeast infection to boot. Mom and Dad ignored my requests for him to see a dr and he always came to me without any cream on his bum etc.....Not an ideal situation. That family was strictly a pay check. I did the best I could with what I had to work with. This boy was also like Momof4's "bipolar baby". He just had no idea
Errbear, I used the phrase 'don't talk to me, talk to your friends' to my nonstop talker because she always had to be getting my attention and talking to me. I finally had her programmed to talk to the other children most of the time by the end of her 3 years.
There is no way I would put up with punching though. That child would be in nonstop timeout and her parents would be working on improving her behaviour or else, bye bye!
Sorry you had an experience with a nonstop cryer, but we all get those once in a while and it's sheer hell.
Oy! I hear all of you!
I have one girl who is Miss.Mommy to all the others but is forcefull about it. "No, you sit here (grabs hand and pulls child to sit)" "no colouring now...(push child away)" she gets big NO-No's for both. I tell her that I am the adult and I am in charge not her so ZIP IT! lol
I know a dcp who has a boy who GOD forgive me is ANNOYING as hell! His own mom is on Mat.leave and sends him to her 3 days a week or she will snap! He is allllllllll day calling out your name for everything! He's even pulled the * = my name...
"****, ****, ****"
"WHAT IS IT???"
"I forgot [smile]"
His dcp has said a few times "you're not allowed to talk to me anymore today" or if you say my name ONE more time....[evil glare]" :laugh:
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! :glomp: LOL
I have two annoying ones right now too, maybe even three if you consider our new angry screamer who shrieks in between getting spoonfuls of food or if he doesn't get something he wants right at that instant. And it is pure anger. And sooooo loud! Like its the end of the world.
The other two are girls who are part time and occasional. The part time one comes two days a week, she is 3.5, is ALWAYS odd and reaching out her arms to her mom at drop off, then she warms up, and goes about her day like she's mute and doesn't want to leave when her mom picks her up, kicking and screaming sometimes when she has to leave. She doesn't talk even though she is perfectly capable. Bites my own daughter in secret, and when she wants things like milk in her cup she just hands it to me. not asking ever. or hands me the empty one into my hand once she's done. All without ever saying a word. how rude!She especially likes to try to get your attention and decides to start talking to you and telling you unimportant things when adults start up a conversation, such as parents picking up their kids. She is a horrible eater. I have to spoon feed her to get her to even put food in her mouth. And when she does finally start eating she chews each spoonful for 3-5 minutes before she allows you to put in another. aargh. I try really hard not to feed her, I tell her she's a big girl and that the 18mth olds are feeding themselves and that I know she can do it too, but she stays with us for dinners and so there is usually only about a 15 minute bracket for her to eat between her getting her food and her mom picking her up. So I often don't have a choice but to, otherwise her mom stays and does it for her! So its useless even if I didn't!
The 3rd, she's very antisocial and has the craziest throwing herself down onto the floor and screaming tantrums. Only comes 3 hrs once a week thank god. And wants to be left alone in her playpen after about an hour of play no matter what new activities I suggest or try to do.
I'll be glad when they all move to new places. These are definitely children and clients I have learned from that I will try to omit, though all the families themselves are awesome to work for and amazing themselves.
I'm starting to find a pattern and think that the nicer the families, the worst their child is. Has anyone found that as well? I would really like to think this is not the case.
Yup, been there. Sometimes, you just want to say "Stop it, just stop stop stop stop stop stop STOP ITTTTT!!!!" (whatever "it" may be)!
As for the idea that the nicer the family, the more awful the kid; I kinda hear what you are saying. The challenge with super relaxed and easy going people (whom most people would agree are "likeable") is that they don't usually set boundaries for their kids. Sure, you can touch what you want, say what you want and go wherever you want with no consequences..... it's okay with me!!
:)
Read my post the "Hey Kid." LOL
This makes total sense! I never thought of it that way but that is soooo true!Quote:
Originally Posted by mom-in-alberta
Ahhhh, so glad to read this thread!! I have 2 fantastic 2 year olds and well....a 4 year old going on 1. She literally cries at the drop of a hat!! Cries if someone takes something from her or has something she wants. Cries if the little ones don't do what she says etc. It is getting worse and starting to drive me crazy! Sometimes I just want to tell her she is the biggest, not to let the others take things from her and to stop acting like a big baby, haha!!
Ohhhhh I totally have one like that, everything he does is annoying unfortunately.
ALL the daycare kids feel the same way.
They are always whining about how his table manners are terrible.. he farts all the time, has no bubble,talks too loud, etc.
I swear when I see him pull up in the morning I swear in my head and scream "nooooooo, go home!!!!)
I know someone said you can't term for being annoying but I am seriously thinking about it.
He drains me and I don't think it's fair too spend all my time and energy on that one kid.PLUS he is extremely manipulative . I can't stand that .