Looking for parents who want to share their experiences with daycare providers -
Tyana
tyana.grundig@cbc.ca
Looking for parents who want to share their experiences with daycare providers -
Tyana
tyana.grundig@cbc.ca
Why do you always report the bad and never the good? It's reporters like this that put us in a bad light :cursing::thumbdown: Here's an idea...why not report on something positive for a change!
Why only the request for poor or bad experiences ~ does that not end up created a jaded and negative piece that does nothing to help families in the search for quality home childcare?
I have worked in the field for over 20 years in both private and not for profit licensed childcare models as well working in both regulated and unregulated home based models and it grinds my gears to see this constant focus on 'regulation' being the be all and end all of the solution for quality childcare.
The fact is there are 'poor experiences' in ANY service industry including all of the above ~ the model is not what equates the quality of care received but rather the motivation and passion of those offering the service to CHOOSE to follow or exceed the rules for best practice regardless of who is 'watching'.
I have seen poor quality care offered in 'regulated settings' where parents sit clueless to what is REALLY going on once they drive way because they blindly assume 'regulated = quality' and do not really 'observe' the program and I know many home childcare providers who work in a 'unregulated' setting who choose to SELF REGULATE above and beyond any 'government regulation' because they are passionate about their role in young children's lives and giving them the best start in life!
I am sure there are MORE people who have an awesome experience in childcare that goes above and beyond any 'minimum standards / regulations' that the governments put forth .... why not seek out them so they could share experiences about those childcare professionals in our communities who are doing GOOD in the world ... why does the media not want to do educational and informative stories on THESE families experiences and perhaps investigate and see what they did differently in their childcare search to find those 'gems' in the industry ... that is likely to help ensure that other families can have a positive experience too!
The Internet is full of horror stories on childcare as well as resources on what NOT to look for childcare settings and providers .... so how about focusing on empowering new parents on what they SHOULD be looking for in a quality early learning with positive experiences that empower them to make an educated choice!
The world is no different than raising children ~ if you want to truly change behavior you need to focus on what you WANT them to be doing verses what you do not want them doing .... if we want to illicit positive change in the world we need to stop making our focus be on the 'negative' of what is WRONG with the world and feeding that negative energy and shift our focus on what is RIGHT in the world and feeding that positive energy instead so that we encourage people to do GOOD instead!
I don't know if she's coming back to read these posts at all, but we know we are a special breed. Those of us who are successful work so hard and such long days and are so dedicated to our business and the children and families in our care. This does make me very angry. Thankfully, my daycare families adore me and appreciate me and know that my days don't end when they pick up their children because I still have to clean my house and prepare for the next day. And I love it! Because I am a responsible self-employed business owner who follows the laws but better yet, I nurture and care and adore the children and can work with fantastic people when we choose each other to raise these wonderful little babies onto the road to becoming wonderful adults.
Unfortunately, the bad news sells
I, too, have to ask the same question as the other ladies.....why always the negative slant on home daycare? You know, there are scads of home daycare providers out there in the world and I have had the pleasure to "know" hundreds of them. And I can honestly say that 99% of them are good, honest, hard-working people who want only the best for themselves and the children in their care.
Every one dogs the "mommy wars" about daycare verses stay-at-home-moms and if that isn't bad enough, journalists come along and slant daycare in a negative picture and that just precipitates the angst most moms already feel when leaving their child in the care of a stranger so they can go to work and earn a living. WHY do that to someone? I don't understand why a woman would want to do that to another woman.
Why not report on the POSITIVES of home daycare? You know, those daycare providers doing a great job and how the kids in their care flourish and are helped to become good, honest people, just like their caretakers.
Tyana, if you REALLY wanted to report in the best interest of children everywhere, you would report the GOOD and POSITIVE aspects of home daycare. WHY? Because this gets government attention. We are currently in a true daycare crisis and the people picking up the slack for the conundrum the government has gotten us all in to is HOME DAYCARE PROVIDERS. Tell THAT story! There are currently not enough great, quality daycares out there to service all the children who need them. With positive news about home daycare the government would be more apt (through pressure from those who see your news reports) to see home daycare as valuable. And once that happens there might be hope to fix this mess they have created. Home daycare provider numbers could be increased to perhaps take on six children instead of the current five (in Ontario, at least), or allow more home daycare providers to become licensed (if that is what they desire) without having to be affiliated with an agency that takes a cut of their pay. Licensed home daycare means more options for families on subsidy etc.
Report on the good - make a DIFFERENCE. :yes: Do it for the children.
There are so many excellent points in the posts above. Have any of you considered emailing the reporter directly with your thoughts? She has left her contact information, but we don't know if she is actually checking this site again.
My guess is that she will be back. There was another CBC journalist on here about three weeks ago PMing members with the same request. I personally had a PM asking me about "illegal daycare" and if I would like to speak on that point to a journalist. Now, I see it is all negative, negative, negative. I am VERY wary of working with any reporter who might twist and turn words to suit the agenda of their piece.Quote:
Originally Posted by treeholm
I can just see it now.....it will be a half hour report on how awful and unsafe home daycare is with a small, 30 second snippet that say, "of course, there are great home daycares out there and it is the parent's job to seek them out".
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I'm just wondering if the OP has a pole or question posted about centre run dc's somewhere else?? Why are you focusing on hdc's only? Please be sure to understand each provinces rules and regulations before you write your article and please visit a few aswell to hopefully get the "real" picture of hdc.
Tyana,
What purpose is your article going to serve? Do you have an agenda behind writing an article about bad child care experiences with home child care providers? I'm just trying to understand why you'd be interested in writing an article that has already been written so many times in the past.
Yes, there are some really terrible providers out there. Yes, there are plenty of parents who have had awful experiences with home child care providers. I'm not going to argue that point with you because I know that bad providers are a reality. That's nothing new. Why would you choose to cover the same ground that so many other writers have already covered when you could do something remarkable instead?
Why not write an article about good providers and positive daycare environments? I think that could really change the way that parents feel about going to work and having their children in daycare. I'm sure that there are parents of children in home daycare environments out there who would be more than happy to share their experiences for an article. It would be a refreshing change to see a positive portrayal of home daycare providers, really. There are just so many negative stories that are reported but I don't think that I have ever seen anything positive be reported. The image of the home daycare provider gets distorted and as a result, sometimes we all get lumped into the same category. Again, I'm not saying that there aren't bad providers out there, I just think that it's important to make sure that it's known that there are remarkable providers, too.
I'd like to challenge you to take a different path with your article! I think that you could do something memorable if you're willing to not take the beaten path. Everyone writes about the negative aspects and all that accomplishes is putting fear into the hearts of parents. What if you could do something to replace some of that fear with a sense of security for families? If you're willing to do something bold like that, I'd be willing to give you an interview and ask the parents of the children that I care for and the parents of children that have aged out of daycare here if they would be willing to give you an interview. We aren't all the same and I think that it's time that the generalizations about home care providers are challenged.
Only because we LET it :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Fun 88
All it does is scare poor frightened first time moms to the point where they're nervous wrecks ever leaving their babies with us...not good for anyone. It's not like people don't already know the potential for The Very Bad Things. It's shoved down our throats from the media on a regular basis.
I am so sad for Canadian journalism that it's becoming so very sensationalist and tabloidy. I remember a decade ago, being shocked at how crazy the American television station news reports were. My husband and I talked about how the opening credits were like Inside Edition or some entertainment rag "newscast". Our casts used to be so classy and informative. Now I wonder how much is real and how much is scare tactic to get people to watch. :no:
I agree with what Janet says above,
"I'd like to challenge you to take a different path with your article! I think that you could do something memorable if you're willing to not take the beaten path."
The road less taken will always garner your journalism more attention than sensationalist bullcrap.
I am also wondering what positive is to come from a show about the negatives of home day care?
I have been running a HDC for 15+ years. I have come across many, many other providers. Most of whom are terrific caring, loving women. A select few who are not my idea of good or even fit providers. Why is it we always hear about the bad and never about the good. I would be happy to pass your contact information on to the parents of the children I have cared for over the past 15 years, if you would like to hear how awesome their experiences have been.
Sorry one more thing, Why would a parent contact you with a concern rather than the provider, the police or CAS?
I have heard parents complain about their provider (not knowing I was a provider). For example one woman told me that her provider only served her children mayonnaise sandwiches and went on about what a horrible woman she was. After listening to her complain about her provider (in front of her children no less, which only encourages their disrespect of the provider), I asked her why in the world she was sending her children to someone that she was so concerned about. And if she had confronted the DCP about her worries and why she was talking about this woman in front of her kids? She said she didn't have time to find a new provider and no she didn't talk to the provider about her concerns. (so in reality she has no idea what the provider is feeding her kids, she is taking her kids word for it.) If I believed everything the daycare kids told me...
I listened to a neighbour tell me that her provider left the kids in the highchairs all day and yet she left her daughter there for 6 months knowing this?
I had a previous client talk about me and tell LIES about me and my daycare to other parents etc. Luckily everyone in the neighbourhood knew me and knew they were lies, but what if they didn't? This previous client had a grudge against me because #1 I raised my rates and #2 I wouldn't work late for her when her shift was changed. She had to find a new sitter and was upset with me. Funny enough 6 months later when her shift was changed and her kids hated the new provider, she called me to see if I would take them back.
SO, even if you do hear horror stories from parents, I hope you do your homework and hear both sides of the story.
Sometimes a parent idea of what they want and the reality of what they get don't match and they are disappointed, don't mistake disappointment, guilt and misunderstandings for legitimate experience.
http://www.ottawacitizen.com/life/Ur...664/story.html
This link was posted on another site - I suggest Tyana do a feel good story on home daycare providers instead of bashing them and have it coincide with this ottawa citizen story....Maybe then all of the children mentioned in this story that currently don't have care can find loving, caring and thoughful placements in a home daycare with ladies such as yourselves.
I emailed her the following
It would be wonderful to report on how good this care setting can be. . . . . OR . . . if it must be bad new; Why not ask the providers on that forum for their bad experience with parents. What a great story you could make on how badly parents treat the people who care for their children on a daily basis.
just a thought
I concur - this is indeed part of the problem - " The number of children waiting to get into a licensed child care centre exceeds the number of spaces available by more than 70 per cent in a dozen Ottawa wards."
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Originally Posted by country girl
I do hope we are trying for more than this! I'd like to hear from daycare providers as to their concerns - eg, around licensing difficulties, etc, as well as other issues from the people on the frontline.
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Originally Posted by Judy Trickett
IF you're doing your research correctly, then you would know that the DNA (Day Nurseries Act - in Ontario) has rules and regulations in place for licensed daycares. They are there for a reason, and have been for awhile, and licensed daycares should KNOW this prior to opening. If they don't then tough luck for them.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tyana
Tyana, am I to understand that you have completely changed your article now? Or are you still looking for parents to bash home daycare? Your later posts indicate that you really care what we think but the questions you are asking do not coincide with your original post, nor to I see them being linked in any way, shape or form unless our words would be twisted. So, please clarify. I am a parent of two, a private home daycare provider, a person who has worked in a licensed childcare centre during college, and a person that worked with an accredited agency up until my brief maternity leave with my second child. They asked me to come back, but I declined for several reasons. I have a wealth of experience in many different types of childcare and a lot of opinions on how the current system could be improved and open up more spaces, but I need to know exactly what your motive is for writing this article. Our vocation is already looked on so poorly and we provide such an essential service. I do not want another article that is a step backward for all the hardworking women (and men) like me.
Tyana,
As Janet stated earlier you have a brilliant story right in front of you and its one that (too my knowledge) has never been done before. Why don't you interview a hand full of providers and ask them how the average parent treats them. Unfortunately all too many parents treat their providers with a complete and utter lack of disrespect. Not only do they do things like pay late (or not at all), they also can be rude, condescending, and hateful to the very woman who takes care of their child 40-50 hours a week. Ask yourself how a parent can be that resentful towards their child's caregiver and yet still send them there every day of the week for sometimes 10 hour days? You should also go to www.justthebabysitter.com and read Judy Trickett's July 2012 blog entry "What Your DayCare Provider is Really Saying". You may find it very eye opening into the everyday life of a Day Care Provider. Please think about this untold story.
I agree with the others...a story about how us caregivers have stepped up to the plate and are helping to raise the next generation while earning a living and raising our own kids as well. In these tough economic times, many women have turned this as a viable option to allow us to stay home and raise our children the way we think is best while helping other parents get out to work by taking care of their children. It is a win-win for society and this forum is full of evidence of our dedication and hard work when it comes to caring for these children. Just look at some of the posts and you will see us all supporting each other and encouraging each other to be the very best daycare providers possible...the fact that most of us are on here every day looking for new ideas, sharing stories, supporting each other should be enough to tell you that the majority of us really care about the kids and really take pride in what we do. I would love to see that in the news...I have NEVER seen anything about the lives of dedicated home daycare providers in the news. If you want to see things from the child's point of view, why not follow a child or 2 or 3 through their days in an average home daycare? Then you will see the fun, the joy, the laughter, the learning and the love that takes place every day for these children.
IMO challenges to choosing to be 'licensed' with an agency in Ontario are simple:
Inconsistent rules between not having to count your own children in a 'private' setting and having to count them in a 'licensed agency model' as well as the 'restrictions' around age groupings in the face of full-day JK and SK make it most viable to be private ... there is very little 'benefit' for a provider to be with an agency under the current rules ~ everything an agency 'provides' as support to the provider they can get for FREE in the community through networks, OEYC and so forth so the service is 'redundant' and the rules for 'regulated' care around ratios restrict the already minimal income we are able to make.
The 'safety' rules are common sense things that MOST of us do anyway or should be doing ... and things like a 'fenced yard' for home childcare could easily be changed to read 'daily access to a fenced yard OR a public playground' but the problem is that the DNA is designed and written for CENTRE care and well a lot of it does not apply to HOMES because it is not practical!
The other big issue is that FEES in regulated agency care verses private care has an almost $20/day/child gap where the agency charges more to clients or tax payers via the subsidy system because it 'keeps' that $20 /day/child in revenue to cover the middle man expenses of their organizations to 'regulate' the providers and provide said support ... so clients are paying much more for a service because of the cost of the 'middle man' which does not guarantee any increase in 'quality' cause there are many regulated agency out there who do the 'bare minimum' or only follow the rules when someone is 'watching' them.
The easiest way to get more HOME BASED providers to choose to be regulated would be to do what other provinces do ~ cut out the middle man to help keep the cost of childcare lower by not having so many 'middle man micromanaging but not really ADDING to service ~ license the provider directly similar to how centres are but with a ratio that is 'fair' to mixed age groupings, let the provider charge whatever the market can bare to fee paying clients and choose if they want to take 'subsidized' clients at whatever rate the government pays for that and so forth and educate PARENTS on what to look for in their programs as far as quality care, safety and so forth goes cause they are the ones who are IN the programs day in and day out SEEING the programs in action and have them 'report' to the government if they see concerns or issues with their provider!
Am I not mistaken as to think that a private home daycare in Ontario CAN NOT become licenced?? As far as I am aware the agency is licenced not the homedaycare. It is two very different things....
Could someone please help with more info?
"Private-home day care agency providers are not licensed directly. Instead, the ministry licenses private-home day care agencies. Licensed private-home day care agencies then contract individual caregivers who use their own homes to look after children. Caregivers are screened, approved and monitored by home visitors. These home visitors work for the home child care agency."
http://www.edu.gov.on.ca/childcare/l...standards.html
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Originally Posted by giraffe
Giraffe, you can register with an agency and there are several around depending on your city, but then you are not exactly self-employed any more, you have a boss again. I really enjoy being self-employed, choosing the families I feel will fit well into my daycare, making the rules for my contract, my business hours, etc. I also don't want to accept subsidized families into care, which is an option if you are with an agency. But I know a caregiver who had a terrible time collecting through Ontario Works when she had a subsidized family with her. It's a whole new can of worms!Quote:
Originally Posted by giraffe
Ya you are not mistaken .... this is the way it currently is .... in my post I was making a 'suggestion' on how they could IMPROVE the odds of unregulated private home childcare providers wanting to become 'regulated' .... IMO the biggest obstacle is that most of us do not want to loose such a large portion of our income to a 'middle man' that we feel offers very little 'added benefit' to ourselves or clients and the 'benefit' of more regulated childcare is that the government will not allow parents to choose 'unregulated care' if they required government subsidy .... this would allow more CHOICE for parents while still allowing self employed providers the autonomy of running their program 'within the guidelines' but without a direct 'supervisor' coming into their program and micromanaging them monthly ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by giraffe
I am not saying get rid of 'agencies' per say because some providers do like the role they play ~ just saying for those of us who do not 'want nor need' the support of something like that the option of being licensed 'directly' might appeal to them!
What I was referring to was OPs comment on how we (or some of us) choose NOT to be licenced... I cannot become licenced even if I wanted to... so therefore in Ontario it is NOT an OPTION for me so the article is mute.
I would gladly become licenced, but I am unable to sign with an agency, as that would leave me with next to nothing for take home pay, after the agency skims their fees off the top of MY wages for the services I provide.
An agency, IMO, does nothing for me that I cannot do myself. We as home daycare providers are caught between a rock and a hard place, as we are not willing to pay an entity to do everything that we can do on our own, but we are not physically able to become licensed on our own. THEN, we are vilified by the media, because, of course, unlicensed daycare is, y'know, really really dangerous.
True ~ this is part of the challenge with 'patchwork childcare system' that across CANADA the rules are vastly different province to province on what is legal or not legal and how childcare is managed and addressed .... the OP did not specify which PROVINCE they are focusing on and CBC broadcasts across all the Provinces .... some provinces are lucky and it is the HOME that is licensed there is no 'agency' middleman driving up the cost of care.Quote:
Originally Posted by giraffe
Why would we report her ~ she was not doing anything 'wrong' as this is a public forum her request was not spam or hate speech or any other 'category' for reporting?Quote:
Originally Posted by luppernoodle
BTW she has come back several times since posting her initial question to provide follow up as well as to discuss things with some members via email around the challenges of 'licensing / regulation' and what those 'against' regulation would want to see changed in order to be more inclined to BE regulated so that there are more options and choice for parents who need childcare?
Yes ~ the CBC desire to do a piece on Modernizing Childcare In Ontario and across Canada is politically driven for sure and there are definitely many different beliefs on what that should look like and what is BEST for children and families ... however if WE, either as society at large, as parents or as individual providers, do not stand up and voice our opinions about what WE think is best for childcare industry from the view of the front line than we are going to end up having to live with the decisions of big business and politicians who often have NO CLUE what it is like on the front line acting trying to 'follow' the regulations and how often the 'regulations' rather than encouraging quality childcare often impede them or contradict 'quality' and they will continue to make decisions based on 'economics' and 'getting re-elected' .... change is coming whether we like it or not and if we do not speak up and give feedback on how WE want that change to look when change arrives and it is not what we would have 'wanted' well we got no one to blame cause they cannot 'read your minds' so to speak ;)
An example of when 'regulation' goes wrong ~ when I chose to do home childcare I started out with a licensed childcare agency not because I needed the support they offered but because I wanted to be able to offer clients who needed it the option of 'subsidy' even though it would mean a slight 'decrease' in pay for me to do so ~ an act of 'altruism' because I believe children deserve a high quality program regardless of their parents ability to pay full market fees for said program.
However after two years I ended up never having any clients referred through the agency because of the long waiting list of subsidy and my ability to find clients privately ~ but that entire time I was full with private clients I still followed all the rules and the agency still came out and 'inspected' me monthly and so forth in case a space opened and they had a referral for me. Than going into my 3rd year of business I had a child graduate into 'big school' and was looking to fill a space with a 'over 3' child because I was still at my max of 3 under 3 years of age ... I found a perfect match for hours of care, philosophy, little girl was a perfect addition to the program personality and learning style wise and it was a client who needed care to start ASAP because mom had gotten offered a job she could not turn down and mom wanted the little girl to have some time in a program to prepare for school the next year .... down fall being that the child did not turn three for another 21 days ~ a whopping 15 days of 'childcare attendance' where she would technically be 'under 3' and put me over my restriction of no more than 3 under 3 .... so I called the agency for advice and with the regulations rules I would have to either delay the start date of the client forcing the family to find 'back up care for 3 weeks and have the child go through TWO transitions while mom return to work OR I would have to pass up the client entirely if they could not do that in order to maintain my 'contract' with the agency OR I would have to give up my contract with them I I chose to go with enrolling her at the early start date cause it would be in contradiction of 'regulation' and they could not have a provider who is not in compliance .... seriously how much 'easier' is that child going to be able to care for in 15 days that the other children in my program were at 'risk' if I chose to take her on? But is is STUPID like this that impede providers desires to be 'regulated' and limit the availability of subsidized spots for parents who need access to it ~ cause for the sake of 15 days they lost an amazing and talented provider because for ME turning away a perfectly awesome client over 15 days was just well stupid specially since being 'regulated' did nothing to benefit ME as a business owner and was something I did purely to help CLIENTS and in this case it was not helping them but rather impeding their ability to procure a quality childcare choice for their child ;)
Hi Tanya,
Can I please get your email address
Hi tayna,
I have something to tell you, I had a terrible experience with home base daycare. Can you please provide me your email address so that I can send you my story.
Saqi - perhaps if you had an issue with a home based daycare, the best course of action would be to report it to the proper authorities or to the appropriate provincial government depending on where you are located. I have issues with parents running to the media with their "stories" and possible putting everyone in a certain profession in a bad light.Quote:
Originally Posted by saqi
There was a recent story in my area this past week where a parent reported a problem she had with a school bus driver to the media instead of the bus company or the school???? And now 2 days later they have found her story had no merit??? It irks me that people use the media as their first first point of contact when they have an issue with a profession or person.
i guess the question was asked in the wrong place? we are definitely a different kind of breed. :)
if anyone tells me home daycare is an easy job, they have no idea why running shoes and track pants is mandatory.
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Originally Posted by darasmommy
First of all I can assure you that all the women I have interacted with are VERY caring and professional people, who care for these children with all the resources they have. They all including me take thier child care businesses VERY SERIOUSLY.
We all work very hard..and we come here to VENT. If we did not have the site I am sure some of us would be in a very bad place....We take our connections and friendships here seriously too, and I at least view every one of these women as a resource to go to, and above all my "friends in the biz" no one understands my woes like they do and can.
Lastly...Of course we are in it for the money--who isn't?? You get paid to do a job I am guessing?? (Or you did) Well so do we... and in the end as much as we care for these kids, and assisting them through the most pivital years of thier lives...We have families to support and look after, and we MUST DO what's best for our business.
Until parents and adults understand this WE AS CAREGIVERS WILL NEVER GET THE RESPECT WE DESERVE. and we will always be viewed as they babysitter.
PS: I am hoping I read this wrong and if I did, sorry for that, but it needed to be said.
To darasmommy .... I'm glad I also do not care for your "baby" because you clearly do not value what I do. Because I am the person that provides a safe, caring, and loving place for my daycare children, while their parents are at work, I feed them nutritious home cooked meals, and change their dirty diapers, and kiss their boo boos, I engage them in educational and fun learning activities that I mask as "playing" And at the end if the day they all give me hugs and say see you tomorrow. And by the way .... Yes I am in it for the money because if i wasnt its called volunteering and volunteering doesnt pay the bills....... So thank you for not coming to my daycare and making me terminate you for disrespect ! yQuote:
Originally Posted by darasmommy
Wow ~ I am guessing that you do you OWN a business that needs to be viable in order to allow you to maintain doing it or run in the red cause if you did you would know that EVERY business has to keep an eye on the BOTTOM LINE and ensure that the choices they make in business are reflective of keeping that business viable and ensuring they are not working for FREE?Quote:
Originally Posted by darasmommy
While I am sure that there are some providers out there who are not 'engaged' with their children and only you know what you are seeing day in and day out at your park ... but I will admit as a professional it frustrates me to see parents/grandparents come to a park and make judgements about what they are seeing when they do not know the provider, the children or their capabilities! So sometimes remember that just because a provider does not get up and put their kid on the swing when they are asking it is because they do not want to get off their 'lazy butt' but because they have a VALID REASON behind not doing it!Quote:
Originally Posted by darasmommy
So for example my rule at the park is that if you cannot get onto a piece of equipment independently than you are not READY to be on that equipment in the first place and need to choose an alternate exploration and this definitely includes the 'swings' cause they are the most dangerous piece of equipment AT the park! I personally get peeved when some judgmental parent mistakes that safety for 'indifference/laziness' and proceeds to put my daycare kids in a position that they do not have the gross motor skills or cognitive mastery to HANDLE and therefore put them on equipment that could result in a brain injury I would be liable for cause the kid is prone to letting go of the handles and falling off cause they have not mastered the skills needed to grasp swing science. I also have children who are developmentally ready and able to get on the swing independently and PUMP the swing on their own but have been babied by other adults in their life so are stuck in a position of learned helplessness and laziness themselves of why pump if I can whine and someone will push me so I am engaging in tough love by refusing to assist them on or push them because I know they can DO IT if properly motivated and the self esteem and confidence they will achieve when they finally try and succeed is worth it to me to deny them that help momentarily. Lastly I have young children who've spent the entire trip over to the park 'contained' to the stroller or what not and when at the park my goal for them is to be climbing and moving their body on the other equipment and I do not want them sitting idle in a swing ... so if I am not putting them in the swing even though they are 'asking' it is because I have a different GOAL for them in the program!
So my advice to you is it is not your PLACE to be worrying about what other people are doing with their children at the park ... please do not pick them up and put them on the swing or push them as that JOB is the ADULT IN CHARGE OF THEM and if they are not doing it perhaps they have good REASON ... so perhaps next time you are at the park and someone is not placing a child on the swing or pushing them perhaps ASKING before you form a judgement so you can have the FACTS behind someones behavior or choice ;)
I know eh? Reading some of the horrible way providers are treated by clients just makes me so sad for them and their need to come on here and vent and ask others for advice ... these are the people who are caring for your children and yet the lack of support and resources they are offered to do that are just abysmal and the fact that a football player gets paid millions to toss a ball around a field and no one blinks an eye and yet we are seen as bitches who are in it for the money for standing up and demanding we are paid fairly for the emotionally and physically demanding job is just disheartening!Quote:
Originally Posted by darasmommy
Originally Posted by darasmommy
...I cannot believe the things I read here...
Reggio:
I know eh? Reading some of the horrible way providers are treated by clients just makes me so sad for them and their need to come on here and vent and ask others for advice ... these are the people who are caring for your children and yet the lack of support and resources they are offered to do that are just abysmal and the fact that a football player gets paid millions to toss a ball around a field and no one blinks an eye and yet we are seen as bitches who are in it for the money for standing up and demanding we are paid fairly for the emotionally and physically demanding job is just disheartening!
I love the spin --hopefully this is what she meant
darasmommy, I would like you to know that I want the best safety, care, and early childhood education possible for my daughter so any child in my care gets the same GREAT quality of safety, care and education as my daughter does!!!! I have come to know many of these women on here through their posts and I know that they do this job for the children, NOT for the money. Seeing that you have a baby, you should know that home daycare providers are definitely NOT in it for the money! The LITTLE that we get paid is barely enough to cover food, art supplies, toys, equipment, insurance, first-aid kit, first-aid training, current up-to-date childcare courses, a roof over the children's heads, heat in the winter, cool air in the summer etc etc etc Part of our income has to be put away to pay taxes, times when we don't have enough children signed on and are in the negatives but yet we still put on a smiling face and make a fun, safe, loving, caring, educational environment for all of the children in our care!Quote:
Originally Posted by darasmommy