Diaper Rash

Has anyone experienced a parent blaming you for their child'd diaper rash? I have a parent who is telling me that on Friday her child was sent home with terrible diaper rash and it is now blistering and infected. I change diapers every 2-21/2 hours or if I smell something and know that it needs to be changed immediately. This is very frustrating because now she is telling me that she needs to keep him home today because his bottom is infected.

I just feel that I am getting a lot of blame for something that I do not feel I could have prevented?

So confused...

has anyone ever heard of such a rash appearing so fast, I am just curious because from what she is describing it makes me feel terrible, yet I feel I did nothing wrong...

Do you have the baby monday thru friday straight? they don't pick him up after work and take him home to care for him?Wouldn't she see it starting earlier in the week, they don't just appear out of no where. sounds to me like she is just blaming you because it makes her feel better. I would just give it right back to her, when she brings him back request "cream" to be used at each changing (tons of it) and change his diaper every hour, go through them like wild fire. maybe even ask her if she'd like you to note the changings and she is welcome to count the diapers. I just give it right back if a parent doesn't respect my quality of care. MAYBE just maybe he has sensitive skin OR is he eating new foods? that can cause quite a rash sometimes. UUUGH! I really don't like difficult parents at all. good luck

She very well could be OVER reacting too. That could be why she isn't sending him, that way you will see it's just not that bad.

I change the diapers at about 9:30am before we go outside because one of my little ones is a regular pooper at that time. Then I change them again at noonish before naptime and after naptime at about 3pm. Those are the regular change times with the stinky ones extra in between or off schedule a bit. If a child is prone to a diaper rash then I ask the parents to provide a cream to be kept here with their diapers and wipes and I will gladly put it on the child. There shouldn't be any other questions or answers to this issue, it's simple enough.

The fact that the parent is blaming you for a diaper rash makes me think that you had better sit her down and talk about trust and the way you run the daycare and clear the air quickly. Is she having a problem letting her child be out of her care? Is she worried about something at daycare? Ask her point blank questions and get point blank answers and assure her that you are doing a great job and she shouldn't worry, but she should always discuss things with you.

Totally agree with Momof4's second paragraph for sure, it very well could be that she is OVER protective and is making a mountain out of a mole hill and the number one best thing to do is communicate with parents. I have had to Face to Face ask "new" Moms "what the problem is" because they make me feel like they don't trust me and it makes my job 10 times worse. :)

If it wasnt there on thursday night and If there was no sign of it during the day Friday then clearly there's something more like maybe a reaction to something, teething, yeast infection, eczema.... Ect..... I have a little one hat sometimes poops during afternoon nap and it makes for a red bum... I put on the supplied cream and let the parent know at pickup.

Wow! She sounds crazy! I've had them poop during nap and I don't get to it until 2hours later because it doesn't wake them. It's a little hard to clean off and a little red, but nothing that stays long enough for a client to even notice.

Yes, a conversation about trust is important. First time moms can sometimes act a little nutty! I would start the conversation about concern for the little one. Bring up things like yeast infection, teething etc. And let her know that in your experiance (key word) rashs take time to develop into sores. Re route her thinking that it may be something else. If shes' still dead set that you did this to her... then it's a real cause for concern. Then I would have the trust conversation.

I'd ask her what the child ate. Some foods which are acidic can wreak havoc on that tender skin once they've been digested.

You know one thing to keep in mind is, when a child has a BAD diaper rash I have found one of the worst things you can do is continue to use wipes, even the gentle ones can burn and irritate. Maybe the baby needs to be washed with just water in the sink or a gentle soap and water, and dry really well (let it air out for a few minutes) before a quality cream (no perfumes or colors) just plain a and d or another natural no smelly diaper cream or triple antibiotic to help it heal quick. Some kids just get diaper rashes easier than others, and I have found wipes to become an irritant once there is a sore area. I also, always cream their bottom with EVERY diaper change to help protect that sensitive skin. :)

Another thing to remember is that one medication such as zinc oxide won't work on a rash such as a yeast infection. It's my policy to only apply cream that has been brought in by the parents so that they can't be angry with me. We can't make a diagnosis, only a doctor can do that.

I totally agree about the wipes! I always washed my kids under the bathroom tub tap after each diaper change when they had a rash, which was usually only if they had diahrea or something. At daycare I will not and cannot wash them in the sink or tub, but I do suggest switching to cloth wipes with warm water if they have a bad rash...but even then the wiping can hurt them. And I will not use ay cream not supplied by the parent either.

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Originally Posted by kidlove

You know one thing to keep in mind is, when a child has a BAD diaper rash I have found one of the worst things you can do is continue to use wipes, even the gentle ones can burn and irritate. Maybe the baby needs to be washed with just water in the sink or a gentle soap and water, and dry really well (let it air out for a few minutes) before a quality cream (no perfumes or colors) just plain a and d or another natural no smelly diaper cream or triple antibiotic to help it heal quick. Some kids just get diaper rashes easier than others, and I have found wipes to become an irritant once there is a sore area. I also, always cream their bottom with EVERY diaper change to help protect that sensitive skin. :)

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