Im very bother by this would you?

This afternoon one of my school age kids grandma picks up early due to the snow day. She looks at my and says your in your house coat with a dirty look. The only reason i had my house coat on is because one of the little ones is sleeping in my room where i cant get to a sweater. I told i was cold and i cant go up stairs. I am very bothered by this. I have been walking around in circles all morning and after lunch clean up. I sit down for her to come in to say something. Would you be bothered about it?

It would have bother me too.
But what I would love to know is how wearing a house coat going to effect how you care for the children. Its not. But "first" impressions and all. As long as we are not wearing something too revealing what does it matter.

The grandma interpretted it as laying around doing nothing - having a lazy day so to speak. As in didn't even bother to get fully dressed this morning. My first question is why your housecoat would be downstairs rather than up in your room and that there was nothing else you could have put on instead such as a spring jacket that would have been more sweater like or that you would have a sweater available downstairs somewhere. I get the curled up on the couch during naptime and being cozy. I have an old sloppy, baggy, stained sweatshirt I keep near my computer for evenings but when wearing would have taken it off quickly before answering the door.

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Originally Posted by playfelt

The grandma interpretted it as laying around doing nothing - having a lazy day so to speak. As in didn't even bother to get fully dressed this morning. My first question is why your housecoat would be downstairs rather than up in your room and that there was nothing else you could have put on instead such as a spring jacket that would have been more sweater like or that you would have a sweater available downstairs somewhere. I get the curled up on the couch during naptime and being cozy. I have an old sloppy, baggy, stained sweatshirt I keep near my computer for evenings but when wearing would have taken it off quickly before answering the door.

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I had to get up early this morning at 4:45 to get my husband up for work they called him in early this morning so i got up put my housecoat on because todays laundry day( i bring all my laundry to the basement the night before). And i had put my housecoat on my landing to upstairs so thats what i had lying around. Me too i normally have some type of sweater lying around but had taken them downstairs. I wasnt even expecting her either she just pooped in to get her because she knew she was with me because of the school buses being cancelled

Sounds like an over protective gramma. It would bother me too, but thankfully (or hopefully) you don't have to deal with Gramma that often. Maybe make a joke about it to mom and see what her response it. "gramma must have thought I was laying around all day.... ha ha ha"

At the end of the day... you know what you've been doing all day. You know how hard you work and if you want to walk around in a moo moo then that's your right!

Grand parents dont stress me too too much... what do they know. I only have one word for that women : WHATEVER. Don't make it a big deal.. I guess unless the parents give you problems, but even then, they dont decide what you wear, we are not going to dress up in office clothes and high heels !

Of course, it has no bearing on how well you take care of the kids HOWEVER I, too, would have taken it off before answering the door. We are always yearning to be treated like professionals, but a professional wouldn't answer the door in a housecoat, sorry. That's just me though!

Yup I agree with the other ladies ~ yes it was rude of her to judge you however if we want to be seen as professional how we dress is part of that as 'dress code' is part of what people naturally use to judge professionalism ... I would not answer my door in my housecoat unless it was PAJAMA DAY and everyone was in their PJ's ... I am the opposite of most people and am always HOT so I work all day long in a sleeveless tank top and put on a 'sweater' to answer the door this time of year because the blast of air is cold for sure and I do not want parents looking at me like I have three heads standing there in just a tank top ;)

Sweetness, I'm sorry this woman made you feel so bad. However, I have to agree that I always want my hair brushed and my makeup on and I wear nice, comfortable clothing at all times but I want to look professional. You learned a lesson so just move on with the knowledge that others may be shallow but we want to be known as business women so we have to project that image all the time.

I honestly would have been bothered by it, but just let it roll off your back as easy as it bothered you. I have had parents make comments like "I wish I had your job, sitting on your comfy couch" (while I was sitting with all the kids reading them a story. ...part of me is bothered because I feel like they think I do that all day or something, but them you do have to remind yourself that it really is pretty awsome that although we know the truth, that we work really hard to keep up a house and keep all these kids happy and cared for, taught and fed all day long but the bottom line is, it is really nice that we can wear a sweatshirt and sweatpants all day if we chose or sit down on the couch for a while to read a book to the kids or for a quick snuggle during the rat race of the day we have. That is what you would call a P-E-R-K!!! :)

I wear yoga pants and sweat shirts every day. I don't wear makeup, either. This does not affect my ability to care for children in any way, shape or form, and anyone who thought that it did would be getting their notice.

Who cares if you had your bathrobe on? How dare she comment??? If her children were unhappy with the way you care for her grandchild, he likely wouldn't be in your care. One has nothing to do with the other, and I think she was incredibly rude to question you. It's one thing to think something. It's quite another to question someone's attire when it's no business of yours.

well, that would be me, in housecoat answering my door. I answer the door pulling over a house coat over my nice Lulu's and tank top... I put one house coat in my front door to cover me, unless you want so see nice hot buns and toned biceps aka Paula Broadwell (LOL).

Did I hear that yoga pants should be banned in school because it is too shape revealing?
So, I cover myself that, one housecoat in the front door this winter season.

Muslim women have nicer housecoats, long dress to cover whatever they are wearing at home before answering the door. Those are called abaya's, some plain black, some nicely embroidered with matching glitters. I should order one of these....? or let grandma roll her eyes on me?

IN summer, I don't care. I am in shorts and tank tops, and running shoes. deal with it grandma, we are headed for fun stuff!

however, it hurts a bit. dirty looks. but oh well................ .

So, with reminders that we are professional, I am thinking of ordering a nice overcoat, long enough to cover me when I open the door. Or maybe one of those glittery well embroidered abaya. It normally open up in jiffy, it is called cloak...okay?

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I am normally hot, as we go up and down the stairs to basement, play bean bags, parachute games, follow the leader, hopping like a bunny.

no, she can her opinion to herself. Your daycare kids are happy, and your outfit does not reflect about the care you provide.

Angie

IA with the posters who said that she probably thought you spend all day in your bathrobe and don't do anything. She probably took it as a sign that you were lazing around and not doing anything all day.

It would have bothered me too. I often have to grab a jacket or cardigan from the closet too during the day.

I can understand her saying something.....maybe it was a judgement, maybe she was just surprised to see that, and I can understand why you were wearing it. However I just would have laughed it off explaining the circumstances that led you to be in a housecoat.

I often shed a layer when the doorbell rings! This time off year, anyways. My warmest coziest sweaters aren't always door answering worthy :laugh:

Too bad you werent prepared for her comment, you could have shot back a little remark like...."that's what happens in a job like this, no time for myself...always giving, and taking care of others first." (smile) "hay, this way at least I don't have to worry about getting ready for bed later, can just go go go until I drop on the pillow" haha :laugh: