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It's not your fault at all! They are bullies and are trying to bully you.
Can you maybe call your local police station and ask what they suggest you do.
I wouldn't answer the door if the man shows up. I would then tell them if they do show up, you will call the police to remove them from your property.
If you really are that intimidated by the husband, then please do not open the door to him. You should not be made to feel afraid in your own home.
Llike father like son - maybe they should think about that one. Why does the mother feel the need to send the father other than to intimidate and harrass.
Expect them to be pulling the other child too with no notice in retaliation.
just don't open the door. just because he shows up doesn't mean you need to acknowledge them. Also, if you think there may be trouble just call the police and ask them what to do, explain the situation and they may do a drive by. In case they do show up, is there anyone that can be with you as a witness even another parent or a husband of the parent.
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I agree with the others...do not open the door and make sure your own children know not to open the door either (make sure all doors are locked)! You are totally within your rights to keep the deposit...but personally, this is why the two times I have termed, I just returned it as well as any fees paid for services not yet rendered. I did not want to risk any kind of confrontation or blow-up since I am here alone with kids all day. For the dcb I just terminated on the weekend, I returned the deposit as well as this week's fees. The mom came to pick it up along with his belongings yesterday afternoon while my husband was home (I would not have allowed her to come unless he was here). Everything was extremely civil...no words about anything were exchanged...just a simple "Here is the stuff, cheques are in this envelope, let me know if anything is missing" and that was it. She chose to bring dcb to the door...I think to try to make me feel bad...but I did not take the bait and it is all over now. I know I could have argued that the deposit was mine to keep as dcb's behaviour endangered the other kids...but it wasn't worth the fight or risk of an irate parent going wacko on me. Good luck and I hope this all dies down quickly for you!
Do you have a neighbor or friend who could come over and stay with you. It might make yo feel better to have another person in the house with you. Lock your doors and only let the dcp that are picking up in. Let your local police know and have a copy of their contract ready if the police show up. Make notes of everything they say to you. If they call again tell them you will no longer speak with them, that all communication must be done via email (this gives you proof of what is being said), if they insist on speaking to you then inform them you will only speak with their lawyer and not them directly.
yikes! you do not deserve to be bullied like that. Do you have a close neighbor you could call upon to come over or just take some extra peeks out a window during the day to make sure things are okay? Keep a phone with you if possible at all times, and if you are going to answer the door, I would have 911 pre-dialed this way if things get confrontational and out of control you have access to them immediately. You'd hope that they, as parents would be calm and rational especially in front of children, but just in case it goes the other way it's best to be prepared. Good luck, stay strong, and stand firm.
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Even with a neighbor available, DO NOT open your door. If he comes and persistantly bangs on your door then you must call the police. An argument over money with a bully will not go well. If they really think they deserve their money, let them take you to small claims court......and I bet they won't
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So no worries about the money and do not speak, text, email or meet with them in person. They are having a temper tantrum over the money and they are trying to scare you. I would never send my husband to see a woman where there is a disagreement....to much can go wrong.
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Sorry to hear you're having to deal with this nonsense Alphaghetti.
I would think twice about having your neighbour speak to him directly. It's a great idea to have her there as a witness but not actively involved. You can control your actions, but not those of others. It's lovely of her to offer to step in, but in a confrontation like this, it's better if she doesn't dive right in, just in case anyone loses their head. Take notes, document everything, yes....talk to the guy, a definite no. Who knows how much it might escalate. She should just remain on the sideline (on her property if possible) taking notes.
My two cents - just email them or leave a voicemail stating that you are within your rights not to refund the money as per your contract which they signed. Let them know that you will not be answering the door to her husband and if you feel at any time that you are being intimidated or threatened, you will call the police immediately. It sounds like they're good and mad - you certainly don't want to bring this sort of situation to your home and business.
I like the idea of contacting the police just to give them a heads up that there may be an issue later. You could also include this in your message to the family.
DO NOT OPEN YOUR DOOR TO HIM!!!!
If you take Friday as their two week notice day then you do probably owe them for one week of money as in this week and next week are their two weeks they owe you so if this week is already paid and you have a two week deposit then you do owe them one week of the deposit.
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It isn't about whether you are willing to continue providing care or not. If the family decides to terminate care that is their perogative and reason is immaterial.
IF your contract says parents need to give two weeks notice then that is what they did when they pulled their daughter and said she would not be coming back. So she only owes you for the equivalent of two weeks of fees and you need to return any extra which in this case could be the third week of money already paid and any deposit they made when they started with you.
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I would either mail it or do an email transfer. Just sayin'.....
I like the idea of the online transfer and then you have a record of it in your account too as to the date and the amount and where it was sent should it be questioned down the road.
Excellent call. I'll do this immediately. Thanks!Quote:
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Oh man... miss a few days, miss a lot around here!! :ohmy:
Not sure what all went down, but I hope all is well now, Alpha. I know that you are an awesome provider, and I hope you know this too!!! Don't let this family (this CRAZY sounding family) get you down.
Thanks, love! That means a lot. It's the same family that has been causing me grief for months (dad being rude, mom throwing the envelope of money at me, late payments, etc). I finally booted them when dcb's behaviour escalated in violence, and the mom called me unethical and unprofessional and was trying to scare me by threatening to send her husband over to collect hundreds of dollars that I didn't owe her. My DH wasn't home, and they still threatened to come to my door. It was a pretty scary day yesterday, but in the end, mom agreed to disagree with me, and suck up the loss (her fault).
UGH... Good riddance, I say!!
Is there a reason you took all you post off ?? are you in trouble :O
Oh ok saw the last post sorry... those B&!?@% grrrr !!
I am not in trouble, no. I just don't want this mom to have any ammo against me. She's already tried to twist my words to make me look like I am in the wrong. She has a problem with boundaries. ;)
Oh! I want to mention that I have filled BOTH spaces! I am ecstatic!!! The new sib set starts on April 15 - and they're full time! It worked out SO well...the new dcb turns 10 in June, so I can do a seamless start for my new daycare girl who starts in Sept. No over ratio issue, PLUS I'm going to be making more per week than with the crazy family! I want to knock wood or something. I just lucked out.
That is great news. You for sure paid your dues and earned the new stability to your daycare group - extra money is a nice perk too.
That's Great news Alpha! See..The Cosmos lined up and it was meant to be :D
That's wonderful news Alpha!!! It's so nice when something great comes out of a stressful situation. I'm happy for you :D