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I have this 12 month old dcb. He is only part time, been here for about a month. He cries uncontrollably until he naps every time he's here. He doesn't want to take a morning nap today, and has been screaming since he got here, over an hour ago. Nothing seems to help, and he's crying so hard I'm afraid he's going to vomit. He sits by the front door and screams. He still refuses to eat while he's here, too. I'm feeling at a loss with this little guy.
I feel your pain! I had one that cried straight for a week, then poof he turned into the happy, content child that the remains today, 8 months later. Thoughts on pulling out a pack n play with a blanket from home and placing him in that whenever he cries? I would imagine all of the sudden being plunked into a room with all these busy, noisy toddlers is so over stimulating and scary for them. This way, he hopefully feels a little more safe & secure within a confined space with the ability to observe?
I did try, but it seemed to upset him even more.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dreamalittledream
He's never been away from Mom and Dad. Not even with grandparents. He'll reach for me to pick him up, then it's like when he realizes I'm not Mom he starts freaking out again :(
I would suggest having him come everyday for 3-4 weeks to get him adjusted .... Do you have a lot of high energy kids or is it pretty low key? If its high energy then yes I would suggest what the above poster said and put him in a play pen with a few toys or try putting him in a stroller or wagon and taking him outside ... Change of scenery plus the fresh air makes tired babies. During lunch instead of waiting for him to feed himself pop a few things in his mouth or spoon feed him some yoghurt or oatmeal just to get something into him ..... But he really needs to come everyday for the first while .... It still may take a while depending on how stubborn he is
How many days a week is he coming? If it is any less than 3 a week, I would also suggest that he come full time for a couple weeks. He will get to know you and your routine so much faster and easier.
If that isn't possible, just bear with it. In my experience, a full time child can take up to 4-6 weeks to settle in. A part timer can take months, especially if there is a big difference in schedules, etc between your house and home. You should start to see some sortmof improvement though, over that time.
He comes less than 3 days a week. Mom and Dad won't commit to any more than two days a week. I've had nothing but trouble. Already had late payment, this was the family that napped him and then brought him for my nap time, they've tried bringing him a half hour early, and still only paying me for 4 hours, and called me the night before and cancelled on me or tried to change times. In such a short amount of time, I've already had to put my foot down so much.
They've got this poor little guy all over the place. :(
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I've been there. I had one transition for 3 weeks part time... cryed at the door the entire time. She napped well... her only saving grace!
She then started full time and continued to cry at the door for another 3 weeks! UGH! I just about terminated and then she settled down. She's now ( a year later ) one of my favorites! Great sleeper, great eater and just loves me.
Hang in there... if you can handle it. But I think a more consistent schedule will help.
I had a little one start like this as well....11 months old, 2x week, no schedule or routine, had never been away from mom before...I had a long discussion with parents about consistency...they agreed to mimick our routine here at home and after a few weeks she slowly came around...now she walks in alone, waves bye-bye to mom and takes my hand...it will take some time but hopefully he will come around soon for you!
I had a part time DCG that cried all day for FIVE MONTHS!!!! It was not fun. Her parents were not concerned and felt bad for me but said she just had to get used to it. I think when they are part time it takes them longer to adjust. I gave them a one month warning at 4 months and it miraculously stopped. She is still my most "passionate" DCK but is a happy girl now most days!
I set part time at a minimum three days a week.
I was laughing at your word "passionate" because I had one who took 4 full-time weeks to settle in and "passionate" is exactly how I would describe him! He is a really sweet, smart, funny little guy and doing really well, but he is just one of those "big personality" type kids. Wonder if there is a correllation between the long adjustment and "passionate" spirit LOL.
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Originally Posted by Trace of Angels
LOL Sunny days.........there just might be a link!:laugh:
Sunnydays I had one child that cried for 6 months, it's been a little over a year and she an amazing child but craves my undivided attention. She doesn't have a problem voicing her opinion in the matter either! LOL