2 weeks can't go by fast enough-vent!

I finally gave my 2-weeks' notice for my pair of "problem" siblings last Thursday, and they're still here. Mom actually asked me if I could "help" them find new care...are you kidding me? I said go online, there's plenty of providers in their area. Looks like they haven't even started looking yet.

The older one (4 next month) has had about 6 meltdowns just this morning, for things like me asking her to clean up before lunch time, me telling her she needs to share with the other kids, asking her to eat her soup, etc etc. She collapses on the floor, kicking and screaming and crying, yelling that she wants her mommy, for at least half an hour. The kid hasn't had any time to play, she's been too busy having tantrums! I finally asked her if this is what she does at home, to which she replied, "yes, and my mommy doesn't make me clean up at all!" Well, there ya go, kid. Reason #1 I terminated-the parents don't enforce anything.

The younger one (1 1/2) is the screamer. Never. Stops. Screaming. Today it took us 45-minutes from starting to get everyone ready, into the stroller, walking to school, dropping off, coming home, and unloading, and she shrieked at the top of her lungs the entire time, just like every single day. Lunch time she decided to throw her bottle at the wall multiple times, so that got taken away. She threw her lunch on the floor, so barely ate. She's been down for a nap for an hour and a half now, and has yet to stop screaming. I've gone up there multiple times to replace the blanket she continues to throw out of the playpen, check for poop, lay her back down, etc, but no go. She's keeping my own 1-year-old awake, as well as my other 1-year-old dck, and I'm ready to lose it. She is exhausted-they keep the kids up way too late and then wake them at 5am, apparently. She was rubbing her eyes and yawning all the way through lunch, but refuses to stop screaming long enough to sleep. This is an almost daily occurrence, today she just seems to be reaching a particularly high-pitched shriek.

I've so had it with these kids. This is their daily behaviour, and the parents are so incredibly lazy that they write it off as "they've been sick" or they say, "oh, she did THAT? wow, I've never seen her do that before!"

Why oh why can't they just pull them out now? I know Grandma can watch them temporarily...why would you continue to send your child to a daycare that obviously doesn't want them?

Obviously just because I've given notice doesn't mean I treat them any differently, but what if I did? As a parent myself, if my kid got termed from daycare, I wouldn't send them back.

Two weeks CANNOT go by fast enough....

I hope the 2 weeks fly by for ya!!

That sounds horrible! I really feel for you. I would be the same way, wanting them to just take them and go!
Be strong and hope that they either take them out early or the 2 weeks go by fast.

Honestly, I think I would not have them back. I know, I know, not very "professional" but from what you describe you and your dck's are being kept hostage by all this screaming and bad behaviour. This is effecting the health and well being of everyone.

I hope you just keep thinking the end is near as you deal with them. :eek:

I agree with Mimi. I would have a talk with the parents and let them know that their behaviour is too disruptive to the program and offer them their deposit back in lieu of notice.

Gosh, that sounds dreadful, I'm sorry!! Hope it flies by!

Good for you for terminating!!

On a side note - children who behave that way should be put in timeout or if timeout doesn't work then you need to find what matters to her. They should not be allowed to have those types of tantrums. The bottle thrown the first time gets taken away. I also do not allow screaming. I think you need to become more strict!

Ugh !!! I feel for you !!! My two are gone that drove me crazy and I'm soo relieved !! Even payday did not affect the peace I have !!
Is there a way to terminate ? Behavioural reasons ?

mickyc, trust me, she gets put in timeout EVERY time. The tantrums continue while she's in timeout, where I simply walk away and let her scream. These kids are completely out-of-control, no matter what I do. Hence why they're leaving :)

Big Hugs Crazy Eight!!!

I think I would be putting wine in my coffee mug in order to deal with that all day HAHA!

You know your limits and also what you need financially.

If you are able to terminate! Otherwise, time outs are all that you can really do at this point. For the screamer? She would be going in my furthest room away with my white noise machine cranked at this point. That kind of screaming is ridiculous!

That's awful, i feel for you. Sorry these kids are torturing you ;). I agree with Mimi and the others who said they wouldn't let the kids return. This is just my opinion so bear with me, but knowing that their grandma can care for them temporarily, I would term immediately and return their deposit, in lieu of notice. I have that clause in my contract. Knowing that those kids behave in that manner is tough enough on you, but for it to affect the other kids (ie keeping them awake at nap) is worse. Out the door with them.

Sounds horrible. That makes for a very long day. I have a clause in my contract for extreme bad behaviors (aggressiveness, or like what you describe) that is a reason for me to terminate without notice. If this takes away from you being able to take care of others or providing the other kids and yourself a happy surrounding, I would terminate right away. Good luck! I really hope things get better soon.

those kids would be spending an awful lot of time in their beds for the next two weeks

they're gone!!!

I stuck it out the last 2 weeks...I needed the $, as this is HALF my income gone, and I stupidly didn't take a deposit, so I had nothing to offer them as an incentive to go. Will never make that mistake again either!

I don't think it's sunk in yet, and probably won't until Sunday night when I realize that they're not coming back the following morning. Or maybe my ears are just still ringing from today's massive tantrums that I can't think straight! Probably that, lol.

The last 2 weeks have been absolutely brutal, and I would have dearly loved to have said something today at pickup, since the parents are completely refusing to acknowledge that their parenting must change, and frankly, improve, if they want their next daycare to stick with them. It is obvious that they are simply blaming me and think I'm "overwhelmed," and they don't understand that there are actual behaviour issues that need to be addressed, particularly with their older daughter starting school in the fall.

But wait-it's not my problem anymore! Sooo relieved! Thanks everyone for their words of encouragement and advice! Hopefully I can find some new clients that are a good fit.

Yeah! Enjoy your weekend! I am sure on Monday you will miss them, heh heh, yeah right!