Quick question: Do you think it's ok if dcks get a tiny treat for cleaning up at end of day? Last week i promised them one soft toddler fruit snack (size of a dime) and I've never seen the room cleaned up so fast in my life.
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Quick question: Do you think it's ok if dcks get a tiny treat for cleaning up at end of day? Last week i promised them one soft toddler fruit snack (size of a dime) and I've never seen the room cleaned up so fast in my life.
Doing so implies that if a child decides to skip the treat on any given day then they are not required to help clean up. And, it would only take a week or so before the treat is no longer novel and exciting and the smart kids will soon make the connection that they can sit back and let everyone else tidy up for their treat.
I praise the kids tons while they're cleaning up and call out their names individually e.g. "I really like how anna is cleaning up," "way to go bobbie" etc. Also, clean up times are always before we do something they look forward to e.g. snack, lunch, going outside etc. I don't move on to the next activity until things are tidied up.
I praise individually as well !!! I used to have a sticker reward system , busy bees and they would get a special sticker for being an awesome helper !! They loved it !! I had a few who would stand around and then pitch a fit when the stickers were awarded so I stopped and just started praising the clean up helpers and they seem to really love that !
AHHH....NO....Kids play with the toys....kids clean up the toys!
I praise them when they clean up and encourage all of them, even the little ones, to clean up throughout the day. When they are done with a toy, especially a book!, it needs to be put away. The toys don't always get put away when they are finished but that is okay because we clean up before transitioning to our next activity.
I wouldn't give a treat all the time but I don't think once in awhile would hurt. Heck, I treat myself when I clean the house!! LOL
All great advice. Thanks all!
The treat was that they got to play with the toys .... Now clean them up!
I personally don't give treats or incentives that are food based but clean up and following my directions is not optional and will never result in a treat or reward. It's merely expected.
But the subjects of food based rewards is something I feel strongly shouldn't ever be used.
To my Mum, a "treat" always = food. A slice of cake or some other food related item which essentially was known as having no nutritional benefit. My sister and I both have horrible relationships with food and sugar and it wasn't until taking a psychology degree that the penny dropped.
Reward is fantastic and a wonderful motivator for children. Personally I don't feel it should ever be food based and if it is, fruit or strawberry never a sugary based manufactured food item with zero benefits in eating. That association with "deserving" a reward and association of that being food based, is one of the hardest ones to break.
How about rewarding with a particular toy/activity/fruit/song vs unhealthy sugary filled food?
I agree about food based rewards and also have food issues. However, once in awhile is okay IMO because I believe it's all about balance. If a child is never allowed a treat, they have the potential to go overboard when they can choose for themselves because they were never taught boundaries and self control. I do agree though that treats should be as healthy as can be as often as can be! But one fruit snack once in awhile isn't going to kill them, IMO of course!
No, not at all. I do not agree with using food as a reward for anything.
Ever
I have a tree in our school room, during the year it is decorated with different thing, i.e. winter snow flakes, Halloween spider ect.
They are cut outs that I got from Scolars Choice, and laminated. Every time a child cleans up, or has a random act of kindness towards another, they get to choose one, i write their name on it, and stick it on the tree. Who ever has their name on tree the most, gets to pick our Friday movie.
That's awesome!! As a parent of a tween and a teen, I can now say that I do not agree with any food based rewards either, but that's because I learnt the hard way. Biggest one I did was, get your pj's on and you can have a snack before bed" What on earth was I thinking?? Took me years to get them out of that, especially as they get older the snack becomes like a small meal and really, there is no good reason to eat food before bed. My teen doesn't do it ever now, but my son will occasionally if I'm not there to chase his butt away from the fridge. I should have started out with " get your pj's on, it's time for bed", and stopped at that! Sometimes it's anything for an easy life, or pick your battles depending on the day, but the repercussions can sometimes really bite you in the ass. How about teaching children without bribery, there's an idea...I'm striving towards daily. LolQuote:
Originally Posted by 33 Daiseys
It's so hard sometimes !! I have a late in life child ( basically an only as her siblings are so much older ) and every time I turn around someone is giving the "baby" a treat !!! Ugh my older children were raised organic before it was cool !!! My son was the only child in kindergarten with water !! No kidding !!! My oldest is 26 and has never had a cavity !!! Ugh now the baby !! Well total different story !! We have over indulged her !! Luckily her big treat is a kinder surprise !!! But now that we are aware we have been consciously making her mind without rewards ( ugh sounds dum doesn't it !!) but we were the same , if she was good =treat !!
Thankfully for us she is transitioning well but I wish I had been more on the ball !! I think honestly , we grandparent her instead of parent !!