Divorce :(

Had to close today as I found out last night that my husband is cheating on me :(. Feel so sick was up all night. Told all my daycare parents later today and thankfully they are all understanding. But how will I do tomorrow? Sigh. Will be hard!

It's going to be a hard long road ahead. Hugs to you!!

I'm really so sorry to hear this. I've been through it and I know exactly how you feel....which will be pretty awful for a while. Mine cheated constantly, as I discovered, and we had a very messy, 2 year long divorce. I found it helpful to keep really busy. It was hard, but I planned a lot of social events and surrounded myself with friends. I walked 6km every night for years with a neighbour and that's where we vented which was HUGELY beneficial. I kept journals, started writing and just looked for healthy ways to vent my anger. Although, one night when my ex gave our children a t shirt with a picture of himself on the front (yes, really), the picture made it's way to a dartboard in a local pub for an impromptu tournament with a girlfriend. Never in my life have I ever gotten so many bullseyes or felt so damned vindicated. Do what you need to do to get through it. There will be a day when you feel better, I swear.

I am so, so sorry to hear this. Hugs and strength to you!

so sorry to hear , what happen to you, you must be very hurt ,

Sorry to hear. You get through this one step at time. Cross bridge when get to them and know this is not your fault. Do not turn this on self. Regardless of what happening at home, people not accidentally trip up and fall into other persons genitals. That decision was solely on him. Do not feel guilty about his choices.

You will feel upset, betrayal, anger, doubt, before acceptance which long way off. This process that can take time to go through. Allow yourself the time to do.

On the daycare side of things you need to try your best to leave your problems be while you are working. You will need to decide who is leaving the home. Make sure there are no arguments or discussions in front of the kids as well as any phone calls to your lawyer need to be during nap. things will be difficult and awkward until you get your living arrangements figured out. It's important that your families know that this situation will not affect their children in any way.

The reason I say this is because my sister had a call from CFS saying they had her child in custody as her daycare provider and spouse had an altercation in their yard and the neighbor called the police as they knew there were daycare children present. Needless to say my sister pulled her child out of that providers daycare immediately. Not saying this will happen in your case but just something to be mindful about as emotions run high in separation/divorce.

Sending hugs your way.

Babydom, I am so sorry about this revelation in your marriage. I am sending you positive vibes and like cfred said, surround yourself with a strong and positive network of friends and lean on them when it feels like its to much to carry alone. xxx

What a shock to find that out... been there with a brief marriage in my early twenties.... keep eating and stay hydrated...i would forget to do so. lean on friends and get extra hugs from the daycare kids.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Be strong, accept all of your emotions. And know that things get better and the sun will shine on you again.

Stand tall and Hugs
It helps to write so buy a note book at the dollar store and get these emotions down on paper
don't lose your cool when the kids are there
We are all here for you
Hugs

Thank u so much for the encouraging words! I'm trying to take it day by day. One minute I'll feel strong, relieved, happy then the next sad mad. So many emotions.

I'm saddened to hear this because I can completely relate. I went through the same thing 12 yrs ago when my children were 3 yrs and 19 mths old. It was very difficult but it taught me just how very strong and capable I am, which I din't realize before that. It will be difficult but try your best to keep your chin up while you are working and take care of yourself and your kids as best you can. There will be highs and lows (very much like grieving a death). But you will get through it. And probably be happier later on. Just remember it does get easier with time. All the best to you!

So sorry to hear!! You've had lots of great advice given. Hoping things go well for you. Hugs!!

I am so sorry. Much like the other ladies have said try to keep personal and business mind set separate.
A close friend got divorced while running her daycare, and they way she made it through was to give herself 15 minutes of feeling angry every morning before getting her 3 up, and after daycare closed she would do the same. She said that giving herself that 30 minutes to feel angry, sad, upset, what have you helped her focus on her work and children ( she likened it to eating a meal before getting to the point where you are so hungry that you over eat).
Make sure you eat, drink lots of water, sleep, and get los of outdoor exercise during day light. Try and keep divorce work during nap time, so that at the end of you day its about your kids ( if you have them).
Try to eliminate extra stresses by combining housework into daycare time so you don't burn out. Have the kids cook dinner with you ( soups, pasta sauces and anything you put in a slow cooker), do you baking as an activity with them, put on a load of laundry during snack if you can in the am, dry during lunch, and fold during afternoon snack .
Sending a hugs to you:)