Spanking Kids

[kidlove]

littledragon, I also added after that (for me, its spanking and firm guidance toward my children) for others it may be a firm talking or whatnot.

I just believe very strongly in standing up for what I believe in as do all the others here. I respect all points of view and ALL parenting skills, I was just standing up for what I believe def not stating that anyone else is incorrect in their choice of parenting.

Maybe the opinions have gone a little far aggression anger frustration or any other negative emotion should never come into play when disciplining a child, as I stated earlier. When my children have done wrong (like really wrong, in the past) i.e. stealing something, talking inapropriate, or acting disrespectful among others, they are asked to go to their room, we talk about it, they get a spanking and its over. for me it works. thats all! sometimes a spank will wake a child from a "massive fit" or "verbal rank" they just need a reminder sometimes.

Very sensitive subject because there is a VERY fine line between discipline and abuse.

[Yarnlover]

I am just going to correct you here

Very sensitive subject because there is a VERY fine line between discipline and abuse.

There is a very fine line between physical discipline and abuse

[Sandbox Sally]

I am sure that I will not be popular after this post...

Many Christians believe that the bible is referring to the shepherd's staff, not a switch with which to hit a child. Sparing the "rod", ie staff means that if you don't guide the child, you will spoil him or her...The rod was not used to hit the sheep, it was crooked at the end to guide the sheep, and keep them on the correct path when being herded.

I do not feel that spanking is one of those issues where everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I feel that hitting children NEVER ok, whether or not you hide behind the guise of "discipline".

[Cocoon]

I don't want to say anything to upset anyone but I think spanking shouldn't be necessary. You can control/manage your kids without spanking. I belive parents who are frustrated and does not know how to deal with the situation spanks. And I don't think you are giving right message to your kids by spanking. They will learn that spanking is OK. Which is not. Hurting your own child or somebody else's child for the sake disciplining ....? Errrr no. They are children they don't know what is right or wrong and certainly your are not being a good example by spanking them.

And also, no disrespect to any religion but kidslove, did you know that in bible it says that you can kill children? It's in Hosaya, Im sure i spelled it wrong. So this means to me that Bible isn't always right. I hope I did not offend you.

[dodge__driver11]

no one is hiding behind anything really--to to each thier own. I will swat my childs hand, but thats where I stop.

[Judy Trickett]

I am sure that I will not be popular after this post...

Many Christians believe that the bible is referring to the shepherd's staff, not a switch with which to hit a child. Sparing the "rod", ie staff means that if you don't guide the child, you will spoil him or her...The rod was not used to hit the sheep, it was crooked at the end to guide the sheep, and keep them on the correct path when being herded.

I do not feel that spanking is one of those issues where everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I feel that hitting children NEVER ok, whether or not you hide behind the guise of "discipline".

Interesting interpretation to that old adage. I never thought of that before. I have read the bible in its entirety but never really broke it down that way.

Hmmmm....learn something every day.

[Mamma_Mia]

I'd like to add that I do believe there is a difference between spanking and beating your child in anger.

re: Spanking - It makes a difference on the type of child you have. I was the child that you could say stop it or sit there and I would. Now my brother was told to sit there 10 times and wouldn't listen, he'd get 'yelled at' and stay for two second, not until he was hit on the bum did he stay and not move. To this day he is the most stubborn person ever!

I was abused as a child....spanking was to another level....with belts, closed fists etc. and I would NEVER do that to my own children. But to spank them as a way to correct something, I admit I would...have I had to yet? nope

I do NOT agree that a caregiver can spank my child. I'm the parent and I will deal with it. Have I ever been so mad at a dycare child that I wanted to spank them? yes .......Did I - NO WAY!!

It's all a personal belief and it will never change even if it WAS illegal - you can't stop everything people do in their own homes. If we could there would be a LOT of things nowadays not happening anymore.

[kidlove]

Wow, thanks Mamma mia was beginning to feel like I was on a sinking ship. was nice to here someone else feels similar.
Its all in preference and its all in what works for you as a parent, I would hope that none of us in this field were angry or abusive parents or daycare providers. Although, I must say I do feel a little attacked on my stance. however, I am so sure of my FAITH and full understanding of the Bible and what it stands for, I think I will exit with my Faith in tact. Thanks Guys! God Bless

[jec]

I do not spank, tap or hit my kids. I'm not perfect and won't lie that I haven't been frustrated enough that the thought hasn't gone through my mind at the time as it has but- never acted on it. That is when I walk away and get composure. I have told both of my kids that nobody has the right to hit their body- not even Mom and Dad. It is their body and feel that there are other ways to correct behavior.

[Momof4]

I think the issue is that there are too many parents who do NOT discipline or 'parent' their children and the child is running the household. It's everywhere. I've tried to guide a couple of my daycare families on this issue and my middle daughter. My grandson was allowed to make so many decisions and I gently suggested to my daughter that maybe she should take control and make more of the decisions and take charge of the family rather than letting him run the household with his tantrums. He has come a long way and she's learning to choose when he can make a decision and when she has to say, no I'm the Mom and I decide.

My children were not spanked and I was not spanked, but my youngest daughter was prone to tantrums and I used to give her one smack on the upper thigh to make her stop. Then she cried because I had smacked her but she stopped tantruming over whatever nonsense got her going in the first place when I had said 'no'. My own parents were beaten so never hit us except for the occasional one smack thing too when we really did deserve it. I don't see anything wrong with it, but I would be very angry if I saw someone hitting their child repeatedly.

We are not here to judge each other, we are stating our honest opinions as asked by the op.