Why are they hiding....

When my daughter was in daycare we got pregnant with our second child after she had been in daycare for only 2 weeks. I didn't tell my provider right away because we just wanted to wait before we told everyone, however, my tummy had other ideas and it was obvious right from the start (seriously like at 4 weeks I had a little paunch). Anyways, my provider just came out and asked me, and while I embarrassed I just told her the truth, and she had no problems with it.
I was afraid to tell her too because I felt bad knowing I couldn't afford to keep my daughter in her care while on mat leave and knowing my daughter would only be there a short while, I felt like I was wasting her time.

One of my daycare families didn't tell me until they were 19 weeks! I couldnt tell because it was during the winter so she always had her winter coat on, plus she's a little on the bigger side so there was never a clear 'bump'. Honestly, I have no idea why they waited so long, just one day she said "Well, I think we should tell you now that **** is going to be a big brother! We want to keep him coming because he loves it here so much and we want this baby to come here as well once he/she's 1". It almost sounded practiced the way she said it, even though I was overjoyed for her. Even though she told me later than usual though it didn't phase me, 4-5 months is plenty of time to arrange for new clients if need be, if they had decided to pull their child during mat leave. Maybe they're still trying to figure out what their plans are as far as continuing with childcare when the baby comes, etc.

By June/July she won't be able to hide it anymore anyways and that is probably plenty of time to replace the child by the end of the year. At that point you can make up your mind what you want to do and simply inform the mom. It isn't like she could leave since very few other caregivers would take her being already pregnant for just a couple months.

Unless you are going to have a space to also take the baby next year then there really is no benefit to you to let the older child come unless it is going to be fulltime. And even if the parents agree to this they only have to give you the number of weeks in your contract notice that child will stay home with mommy now.

Also have a plan in your mind how you will handle the return if the space opens for a child leaving for school ie Sept but mom isn't returning to work till November.

Yup, I had a daycare family that never once said a word. Not during the interview (she would have been in her first tri, though, so okay), not for the next 4 months. Their son spilled the beans and I finally said "So I hear that congratulations are in order? How wonderful!" This was also a family that had BRUTAL communication skills, so no surprise.
I also think that you should say "So-and-so keeps mentioning her "baby". Do you have great news?" BIG happy grin.
I think people feel like we are going to be so mad. To me, it's just part of the business. When I get a one year old, and he/she is the first baby. I really only anticipate to have them one or two years tops, before baby #2 comes along. Just how it is!
Perhaps she hasn't said anything because she isn't really a "planner". So she doesn't figure it's going to impact you until fall anyway.
I do think it's odd, but more so because I am also the type of person who spills the beans as soon as the egg is fertilized. LoL

MammaMia, we can wait for the word together because this is happening to me right now!!! My 4 year old girl who tells me everything that happens at home, hehe, the parents should be blushing, told me that her "Mom is working on a baby sister." So me and my big mouth, I told the Mom that her daughter mentioned this and asked her if there was anything I should know? The Mom laughed and said, no not yet. But this Mom has a belly and I was afraid if I asked I would be insulting her but hey, I have to take care of my business, so I don't feel at all guilty for asking.

Mini-Update:
DCG's mom has been all over FB about feeling the baby move and the weight shes gaining etc. just last week she was announcing that she had her OB appointment that day.....then shared that the baby is bigger than normal for the age they thought s/he was so they're moving her due date up a week & half..........she's now due OCTOBER 26!!! (YES I have been creeping her profile, it's the only way I know whats going on...)

That means she's 18+ weeks along, everyone on FB knows whats going on and is well aware and she STILL has NOT told me!!! It's getting pretty obvious, she's got a BUMP, I'll give her another week...maybe - if nothing then I'm just going to ask "so when's the due date?" Like really, I'm not an idiot....

I have my life to plan out too. You can text me throughout the day talking about hhow your manager is switching hours and your boss is being weird etc but can't say "hey I'm pregnant, we don't know what we're doing re:daycare yet, but I thought you'd like to know since I look like I'm hiding a graprfruit under my shirt everyday" :blink:

I even thought of just sending her a friend request on FB :laugh: since her profice pic is the ultrasound it would be a no brainer!

or

due to dcg's condition she's doing a walk for sick kids and I did sponsor her....maybe I should "share" the link to my ppl and she would see uh oh she was on my profile...

This is bugging me to no end! LOL I won't do any of these things to be honest but it's funny just to think of her reaction and what she'd say at PU....

I would TOTALLY send her a friend request on facebook LOL
Just tell her the kid told you. It's disrespectful that she still hasn't told you. It's a little ridiculous actually. I have a mom who just told me this morning. She's 20 weeks, which seems a little long to have waited to tell me but the little boys has only been here for 2 months, so I understand why they didn't tell me. She's being totally disrespectful. I wouldn't give it more time bc it's clear she's not going to tell her.

Since you KNOW she's pregnant, don't worry about insulting her if you say you've noticed. It's not like she's going to turn around and tell you she's just fat lol if it's obvious, then say something. You have a right to protect your business

And this is why I have my settings on.....

But that aside, can you write her a letter (email), stating that while you understand that she may be aprehensive about telling you--that open comunication with you is a must.....(in your own words)Leave your feelings out of it, and say that you would like to help her in any way you can with this transition...DO NOT FRIEND HER ON FACEBOOK...

That would not serve any purpose, it would only get you pissed off even more

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Originally Posted by dodge__driver11

And this is why I have my settings on.....

But that aside, can you write her a letter (email), stating that while you understand that she may be aprehensive about telling you--that open comunication with you is a must.....(in your own words)Leave your feelings out of it, and say that you would like to help her in any way you can with this transition...DO NOT FRIEND HER ON FACEBOOK...

That would not serve any purpose, it would only get you pissed off even more

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LIke I said above I wouldn't do any of those things...but it's fun to think "what if" sometimes LOL

And I know what you mean about FB settings....you can't even search my name and I like it that way. If I want you in my 'circle' I'll find you or I already have another way to keep in touch. I'm so anal about it, I check my setting about once a month to make sure nothing new was added that changed anything....