I agree, get rid of them NOW.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wonderwiper
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I agree, get rid of them NOW.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wonderwiper
that is completely unacceptable!!!! i would call the parents immediately....it is their choice to ignore this child's behavior but NO WAY would i allow a child to physically assault me in my own home! did any of the other dck witness that? that is just awful.....
I feel for you Alpha. However, if you want to terminate, but feel you only have "little" things that have added up, yet you feel they are not enough to terminate...well, I think today's behaviour has given you your out!!
I assume you have a no violence policy in your contract?
He hit a toddler
He kicked you in the stomach
He tackled his toddler sister onto the floor
Enough said. His behaviour is "violent" and is grounds for immediate termination for the sake of others in care. If you want to give them notice, then do so, but honestly, it will not get better, and you will feel sooo much better once he is gone.
Hugs to you! Here is hoping you find the strength to do what I think you really want to do!
Maybe get a letter ready for pick up outlining todays issues and give them two weeks to get his behaviour under control or they will get their notice. OR wait till after your interview and then if your take this new family on just give them notice and tell them after much reflection you have decided that due to current behavioural issues the family needs to secure new daycare arrangements for their children and the last day of available care will be xxxxx.
Alpha....I feel your pain!!!!!!!!!!!! I am going through this EXACTLY right now! I am terminating my problem child tomorrow. I have dealt with his bad behaviour since September. Like you, I feel like it is my fault for not having kicked him out in the first month...but I thought if I just kept working on it, kept trying different strategies, gave him enough positive reinforcement, enough time-outs, enough communication with his parents...I thought he might improve. Well, exactly like you, last week the mom tells me she has no idea what kind of behaviour issues I am concerned about because he is good for her....that same day she had left my house with 2.5 year old kicking her, screaming and hitting her...and this is a regular thing. He screams "no" at her, at me, at the other kids...tackles them to the ground countless times a day, etc etc and she thinks this is all fine and normal. That is when I realized there is no hope. If she finds that it is fine for her child to hit her, push her, kick her and shout at her, then this is not the place for her child. Your parent is probably the same...thinks this is normal behaviour. I say TERMINATE! I cannot wait for this child to be gone and to actually enjoy doing daycare again. Right now I dread waking up in the morning and I feel my blood pressure rise when this child's mom rings the bell in the morning. I am at my breaking point and it sounds like you are too. Lay it on the line. Tell her the behaviours that are not acceptable to you and that you cannot continue to provide care for her kids. At this point, for me, no amount of money is worth this stress :(
I'm with Wonderwiper. He's officially moved into the realm of being a threat to the other children, and you for that matter. Gone. No notice, no waiting to fill the spot. That's a liability waiting to happen. It would be terrible to lose one of your golden clients because of issues with this boy. Of course, that's just my opinion. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with this child. Your job should not find you in tears because of the stress of dealing with a small child.
I have never, ever had a daycare child hit or kick me....ever! I see them do it to their parents, but never me. When that balance of authority is thrown out of whack, it's time to end the relationship.
sunny, the part in your post that stood out most was,
I hate my job while they are here, and I dread them coming. :9Quote:
I cannot wait for this child to be gone and to actually enjoy doing daycare again. Right now I dread waking up in the morning and I feel my blood pressure rise when this child's mom rings the bell in the morning.
I am going to terminate. Thank you very much, everyone.
This is exactly why I am letting my problem child go finally. It is not fair to the other kids and I am beginning to worry that other parents are concerned and I love all my other families and do not want to lose them!
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Originally Posted by cfred
Yay Alpha! Go girl go! I feel more empowered knowing I am not alone. No chickening out now! I hope to hear back from you next week and hear how wonderful life is without them ;)
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Originally Posted by Alphaghetti
Hugs Alpha been in your shoes and it sucks. You will feel so much better tonight after its been done. Sending a virtual bottle of wine to you!