A hard situation, need advice

[Cadillac]

You go to the police as requested, of course. Then you answer their questions. That`s it and thats all`. Deal with everything as it comes because that is ALL you can do.

Tell them that you heard it too and tell the absolute truth in EVERYTHING!. Don`t give more info than is needed but do not leave out anything either.

Having worked in the child services field I can tell you that this could be a long and grueling process, or short and not sweet.

three year old don`t talk about that sort of thing unless SOMETHING has happened. Doesn`t mean it was who she said she was but three year old just don`t know about that sort of stuff normally.

The last thing any parent would do is call the àccused` or relative of for the `story`. As a parent you take action right away. Don`t be angry that she didn`t call you to discuss the possibilities of what happened. the mom did the right thing. I hope you understand

I`m so sorry that you have to go throug this and I can`t imagine how devastated you are.

Keep strong

[Inspired by Reggio]

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three year old don`t talk about that sort of thing unless SOMETHING has happened. Doesn`t mean it was who she said she was but three year old just don`t know about that sort of stuff normally...

Ya once upon a time this was my belief too ... children are just to innocent to make something like that up without first hand knowledge ..... however in 2012 with children being exposed to the NEWS over dinner and parents assuming they are not 'listening' not to mention so many other adult orientated conversations and topics in the media these days .... I had a parent in care who allowed their child to be in the room while they watched CRIMINAL MINDS assuming they were too young to 'proccess' what was being said .... needless to say due to the access of information in MEDIA children are being 'sexualized' so much earlier and given access to images and information that their little brains cannot process properly and in learning to DEAL with those images and topics and so forth more and more they are capable of imagining things having happened to them that they have heard or saw about on TV or overheard parents talking about between themselves and so forth but they believe is REAL to them!

I worked in a centre where it amazed me what children were being exposed to and the stories that were told as a result ... we constantly had CAS having to be called to get to the bottom of what was reality in children's live and what was them processing movies and shows they had been allowed to watch at home while in the care of people who did not GET the rating scale.

[paz]

Good Morning!! thank you so much for the advice this has been a very difficult experience. Everything went well at the interview. They are certain it was just a dream and that its unfortunate good people have to be put through such a horrible experience. The little girl told her CAS the she really likes my dad and loves been here..can imagine how hard it will be for her not to see us anymore. The hardest part is to decide if I should take them back!! I feel so bad for the kids and the idea of them adjusting to a new provider breaks my heart".