How do you transition little ones never been in daycare before?

[monkeymama]

thanks for the responses everyone! How would you suggest I tell her its not a good idea to stop in? I dont want to offend her, but I dont want to make the transition more difficult for the little guy...

[playfelt]

thanks for the responses everyone! How would you suggest I tell her its not a good idea to stop in? I dont want to offend her, but I dont want to make the transition more difficult for the little guy...

One of the rules that most of us have tacked onto our open door policy is feel free to drop in but you leave your child MUST go with you.

That stops those that want to drop in on a break or over lunch to check on child.

Explain to the parent that it is a matter of trust between parent and child. The parent needs to trust that the child has the capability to be ok and that the parent has chosen someone (caregiver) to assist the child as neccessary - provide food, toys, place to be, hugs as needed, diaper changes, etc. The child learns that mom says goodbye at the door and they each go about their "work" which for a child is play and then at the end of the day mom comes back and takes them home.

If mom comes back in the middle of the day "just as she promised" but then doesn't take the child home "just as she promised" that trust is broken and may be a long time in coming back.

Children are very resililient and this is about the parent's insecurities not the child's and that is hard for us to deal with in the sense that we are paid to look after the child not the parent. They are an adult and should get their mind on their work so we can do our work. I know easier said than done but.

[Littledragon]

thanks for the responses everyone! How would you suggest I tell her its not a good idea to stop in? I dont want to offend her, but I dont want to make the transition more difficult for the little guy...

I don't think you;d be offending her. Just tell her you think it would be easiest on the little on if he/she got to know her surroundings a little before he started. Maybe mom could spend a morning and then he/she could for a few hours here and there before start. There will most likely be a lot of crying - when my 11 month old started, he cried for three days. But if gets better, trust me. Just trying and be as calming as possible. My little guy used to sit at the front door and cry for hours. Now, he doesn't want to leave. Although, he's a crier so it would have happened regardless.

Good luck to you! Hope it turns out for you! You never know, he could be looking forward to getting away from mom lol