Dilemma - what would you do?

[Spixie33]

So originally the issue was that I had signed a family in the spring and then found out they were pregnant (mom told me) and she offered that she would understand if I want to back out since I would only have the little DCK in care 5 months before she leaves on mat leave.

I told her I was okay to still do it since she was a referral from one of my current daycare families.

Then last week I had another daycare provider refer me another full time child that I had to decline because of this commitment I made to dcmom #1.

Now this morning I get approached by a lady who I interviewed with 2 years ago...she now has 2 kids and her daycare is closing and she wants to go with me.

is this a cruel joke ...am I being tested to see whether I make the right decision....or is the universe warning me away from DCmom #1?

[playfelt]

is this a cruel joke ...am I being tested to see whether I make the right decision....or is the universe warning me away from DCmom #1?

Interesting that you say that. Mom #1 gave you an out. At the time you didn't take it. Was it because you thought any money for a short time was better than non since you didn't have other options as in you said ok for the wrong reason. We talk a lot on these boards about how sometimes we take the FIRST family that comes along instead of holding out for the RIGHT family.

Maybe you are being shown that you don't have to settle but can do what is right for your group. I think it would be worth interviewing both potential families and then weighing it against the interview information letting the pregnancy part just be an extra piece of info. If that didn't apply which family would you have signed on and then maybe it would be worth actually doing it.

[Spixie33]

Interesting that you say that. Mom #1 gave you an out. At the time you didn't take it. Was it because you thought any money for a short time was better than non since you didn't have other options as in you said ok for the wrong reason. .

Great question. My reasons for agreeing are
1- One daycare family is BFF with the new daycare mom and recommended her . It gets complicated to then ditch the arrangement
2-I had already announced the coming July daycare child via newsletter and verbally to some parents so felt embarrassed if I renege on that.
3- I was thinking that a few thousand dollars of income is still better than nothing because I didn't like the idea of interviewing and advertising again and had already started to look forward to the extra income next month

Of course now all these options are coming and the great thing about them are that they are not based on my ads but because people are recommending me or have met me before and seem to like what I do with my daycare.

I feel really confused between my original commitment because I don't take it lightly vs the opportunity financially and longer term for the daycare. The mother who approached me today actually had kids that would fit in better age wise because I have a few three year olds and one of hers is 3.