Lied to.......Advice please

[kidlove]

had something like that happen to me. have a mom who looked like she was gaining wieght for a while. of course i didnt say anything!!! about 4 monthes later come to find out she's pregnant!!!! why wouldnt you tell your provider???? oh...because your not sure you want to send your new baby to her. (trying to get onto a free program in tribal care center down the road) the only thing is babys not tribal and the care center takes tribal babies first. still plans to send older child to me though!!! talk about dishonesty! i have loved your daughter for 11 hours a day for 3.5 years and thats the thanks i get. "no thanks, we'll take the new baby where daycare is FREE" betchya thats great care!!!!

[sunnydays]

I honestly don`t think you should take it so personally. Obviously, if they are keeping the older child with you, they are happy with your daycare. As a parent, if I had an option to have my child in a free daycare (providing that it is a good daycare), I have to say I would take that option too over paying $800-$1000 more per month for the second child. It is a financial reality for parents that childcare is very expensive, so given a cheaper option if the parents feel that the child will be equally well-cared for in that situation, I don't blame them for choosing it. I am not sure what you mean by "tribal", but I am assuming it is perhaps for First Nations children and perhaps the program is also geared toward their particular needs? Anyway, I wouldn't be taking it personally!

had something like that happen to me. have a mom who looked like she was gaining wieght for a while. of course i didnt say anything!!! about 4 monthes later come to find out she's pregnant!!!! why wouldnt you tell your provider???? oh...because your not sure you want to send your new baby to her. (trying to get onto a free program in tribal care center down the road) the only thing is babys not tribal and the care center takes tribal babies first. still plans to send older child to me though!!! talk about dishonesty! i have loved your daughter for 11 hours a day for 3.5 years and thats the thanks i get. "no thanks, we'll take the new baby where daycare is FREE" betchya thats great care!!!!

[kidlove]

In response to kangaroomama: i suppose i should point out, I am from Michigan, US. "Tribal" is Native American. We are surrounded by Native American Land/Reservations. On the reservations they provide child care, but have the right to choose their "own" over other races. Therefore keeping the funding there for those children. BUT, the one thing I do know about the tribal program is unfortunately it doesnt have a great reputation. I have had mothers that work @ the tribal daycare center and dropped their child to me when they worked. also Tribal mothers who have oppted the free care for paying me for child care. Stating "i wouldn't bring my dog there". I personally have never been there but given the opinions of others, i do question the quality of care. (i have also been in many trainings with girls who work there, and completely understand the opinions) I guess my point is this: I know i provide high quality care, i love these kids like my own, parents are always telling me they are so glad to have such a caring provider (as they should). Why compromise your childs well being to save a buck. I know money is hard to come by these days, and daycare IS expensive, especially w/ mult kids. but....wouldn't you rather sacrifce smwhere else in order to give oyur child the best care possible. I just couldnt imagine sending my child smwhere where they would get questionable care. especially an infant who has no voice of their own. Cant help but take the situation a little personal because we dont just do bus, together, we have become friends ovr the past three yrs. Didnt even know they werehaving another baby until the three yr old spilled the beans to me. hmm, just tht i would have known a little sooner thats all.