Hands Down pants!!!!!!!!!!?

[daycarewhisperer]

Ironic for someone who has 'never seen this in 32 years' and a claim it is not normal childhood behavior despite glaring medical research in the early years field to the contrary and on accredited sites such as research hospitals .... now all of a sudden you are flipping to have a good enough grasp of the progression masturbation might take and the need to nip it in the bud before it becomes a 'problem' like humping furniture .... so which is it this is something you have never seen and it is not normal or this is documented enough in childhood to have 'progressions' :rolleye:

And while I agree that it is your home and your rules and that there is a time and a place for it ... so if you want to send the message to the child that is something you do AT HOME fine and dandy ~ just saying make sure the PARENT is a part of the solution and that you are CAREFUL in how you are portraying the message to the child as to why they should not do it 'at your home' to keep their sexuality in tact cause while it might not be 'your cup of tea' it is their innate human nature to 'enjoy' touching that area of the body and we have to also respect that!

Okay so I'll take your word for it that it's normal. It doesn't matter either way. If the provider doesn't like it they don't have to host it. Plain and simple. We don't have to serve every childhood normal behavior. It's our house and our rules and if we don't want a kid with their hands down their pants then we can just say no to THAT behavior. No need to talk to the kid or explain that it can or can't be done here or there. Just block it and be done with it. Simple clothing fix.

I don't host fixations I don't like. I definitely do not want my three year old or four year old kids going home and telling thier parents that another kid is putting hand down or rubbing their private area during nap. Bad for public relations regardless of whether or not it is normal or not. This is a GROUP of kids and the child is in PUBLIC when they are in that group.

No need to debate whether or not it's normal. I personally don't think it is but it doesn't matter either way. Only question is "do you offer that service" or do you not? I don't offer that service here. I want the kids to keep their hands out of their pants. That's the service I feel comfortable offering.

[jec]

Okay so I'll take your word for it that it's normal.

We need to respect each other here and Reggio feels strongly about it for personal reasons where she was strong enough to post. You don't have to agree but reading the posts back and forth, I think you can get your point across without being condescending

[daycarewhisperer]

We need to respect each other here and Reggio feels strongly about it for personal reasons where she was strong enough to post. You don't have to agree but reading the posts back and forth, I think you can get your point across without being condescending

Oh I didn't mean that in a disrepectful tone. I can take her word for it that it's normal. I believe she believes that and that the science she brings forth fits in with her belief.

When discussing this particular issue, it doesn't matter to me whether it is normal or not. I see a ton of normal behavior in children that I don't like. I see normal behavior in adults I don't like too. So at my house I decide what normal I will host and what normal I won't host. I decide whether I provide the service to host every aspect of normal within the child and adult population I serve. My roof my rules.

[kidlove]

we apparently have two dif points of view, yay!!!! thats the glory of human nature, God gave us the ability to choose how we feel. I dont think this needs to become a "real big" issue. Reggio obviously has a strong opinion regarding the normalcy of these acts, as others have the opinion that perhaps exploring is "normal" but we do have the "freedom" to choose what happens in our own daycares. If reggio or others choose to allow a child to go into a room and "masturbate" for personal pleasure and feel that act is natural, that is THEIR STANCE and "freedom" to choose how to feel about that subject. Others dont feel it is the right choice for their in home daycare for what ever reasons, thats okay too. We al have the freedom to choose, thats why we run our own business from our own home, so we can choose what the children do and how the children grow.