I finally terminated them but it did not end on good terms

[Littledragon]

Thanks ladies for all the words! The support I receive on this board is priceless. My husband told me to not allow this woman to rent any more space in brain but I'm still seething. It's the sentence where she told me to next time do my job that got me over the edge. And then the way she spoke to me on the phone...

The reason why she wanted to take me to court was because since they started, I changed my policies. There's a section on misconduct - that I promise to always remain professional however, if there is ever a time where I am feeling arrassed, abused or confronted in my own home, the parent will be terminated immediately and they forfeit any deposit or payment that have already made. UNFORTUNATELY, it wasn't on her contract, which I didn't realize. So, my husband paid the money but because he's such a smarty pants, left it open to my being able to take action if she contacts me again.

I am really sad over this. I was worried about telling my kids, and they honestly didn't care. I said "I'm sad that he's gone, are you?" I wanted them feel like it was OK to be sad. But they said no and moved on. But I was almost in tears lol. This kid wasn't here long and I know I will find others, but maybe it's just the circumstances. It's just sad that all this had to happen. When we were on the phone, I was so upset and frazzled I called her a mean person lol imagine! A grown woman calling someone else mean, but she didn't like it lol apparently she doesn't like being called mean. She's probably been called mean before. I don't know how her husband puts up with her.

Oh well, onward and upward, right?

[jec]

Oh well, onward and upward, right?

Good for you ~ she is the one who was unprofessional as she apparently she thought she had the upper hand since she seemed to have a history of speaking down to you.
You were way nicer than I would have been and I bet...it won't take long for her next provider to feel the sting that you did. She sounds like she just isn't a nice person and will treat the next provider the same. Hopefully that provider asks where her little one was and calls you for a reference on her!!! Here's a perfect example of why I'm always nervous about taking someone one who left another daycare.

Good luck in filling the spot- you did the right thing

[Littledragon]

Good for you ~ she is the one who was unprofessional as she apparently she thought she had the upper hand since she seemed to have a history of speaking down to you.
You were way nicer than I would have been and I bet...it won't take long for her next provider to feel the sting that you did. She sounds like she just isn't a nice person and will treat the next provider the same. Hopefully that provider asks where her little one was and calls you for a reference on her!!! Here's a perfect example of why I'm always nervous about taking someone one who left another daycare.

Good luck in filling the spot- you did the right thing

There won't be another provider. The reason why I was toying on keeping them was because she is moving back to Asia at the end of the month. Her contract doesn't end until the end of the month, so needed care until the 28th. Now, she's left with nothing. She screwed herself, in the end. And that's what makes this SO satisfying. She has to deal with the fact that her and her family are completely screwed for care for the next three weeks. I doubt there will be any way she'd find daycare knowing she is leaving. Unless she lies, which she did to me. But I prefer to think she screwed and husband (who I really liked) is really mad at her. lol I know, I'm sad. But that little but makes me feel better. LOL

[jec]

Karma eh!! She is getting what she gave out!
It sounds as though you turned a blind eye more than once to a comment and or policy that she broke. I'm learning to be firm on policies and building up the back bone. At the end of the day we are working with families and kids and that plays on our heart stings. You should feel satisfaction - she really had this coming speaking to you like that was not called for