Something Wrong?

[gcj]

A lot of grey areas there...hard to say. As far as the not talking goes, they really do all develop SOOOOO differently. I have a little guy who basically didn't talk at all until almost 2 and then it was very slow. He seemed to listen and observe, but now at 2 1/2 this little guys doesn't STOP talking and he used to worry me. 18 months is still young to totally react to danger also, as in being hit with drawers....and some people no matter how old are just a little slower.
Some things do sound odd, but I'd say at this point it's wait and see...

[Momof4]

It's so hard when we suspect an issue of any kind, whether physical or therwise in someone else's child. I give the parents my honest opinions but have to be so careful not to insult them or their parenting skills, so I'd recommend that for you. Sometimes it's really difficult because we spend so many hours per week with the children and get to know them very well.

[kidlove]

tstep8. Think I see the issue after reading your last few posts. This little one is understimulated at home. If they are allowinga diaper rash to get so bad it bleeds? She is being a little neglected in the diapering area IMO. Therefor, neglected in other areas as well. Not dressed for the proper weather?...neglected . I have learned over the years even the most loving parents can be lazy, this child may not be getting the proper interaction she needs in oder to develope proper at her age. She will catch up in time probly, but for her early years it will seem as if there is a delay. Thank God she is placed with you during the day, you can dress her well to go outside, change her diaper regularly to avoid future rashes, and read to her, encourage her to play with the other children (picking up proper social cues) encouraging her to communicate. Read to her, show her picture books and encourage her to "say what she sees". Not saying the parents are not good parents, but I have seem parents like this over the years, just a little on the lazy side maybe.?

[mom-in-alberta]

I think you have done your part. Especially if you are considering (or have decided) to shut down in May. (hope I am not confusing posters?)
You have highlighted your concerns and now it's really up to mom and dad to take it further. Some things sound normal, some not so much. But it does seem a little too early to tell for sure.

On side note: Lord, how I HATE baby talk!!! I mean, or family has a few silly words, like skettis for spaghetti. But I am sorry; "Is that the wall?" should not sound like "Izzat da wawww?". It's entirely possible that this is why mom can "hear" the words, but you cannot. Ughhh.
On the other hand; my second boy was just about 3 before anyone outside the family could understand what he was saying. Sometimes it comes harder for certain kids. In retrospect, the fact that he ended up needed an adenoidectomy later may have had something to do with it?

[gramma]

while your concern for this child is genuine, most parents dont take well to their daycare providers suggesting that something may be wrong with their child even though its just because you want the best for them. i had a dcg with me several years back. she had been with me for over a year and was an amazing well adjusted child, smart, spoke really well from a young age. The whole family including grandparents, aunts and unclues and cousins went to cuba for a week and the girl came back a different child. Obvisously the first thing that came to my mind was that she was spoiled like crazy. after a couple of weeks of her sitting by herself and crying for hours and refusing to eat or play with the other kids i voiced some concern because she also has a ton of mosquito bites from their trip. My concern was completely genuine and i kept them updated on how her days were going and that i wasnt seeing any progress. they were insulted by my suggestion that she maybe see a doctor. they took it personally and assumed i was suggesting that they were not attentive parents. that was not the case at all. this girl loved me to death and was happy to sit with me and cuddle but she was just off, not the same and a week of spoiling doesnt do that once you get a child back to routine. Ulitimately, they came one day, said thanks for everything we are moving her to a centre and i never heard from them again.

[kidlove]

Sometimes we providers have to def be careful regarding how much we suggest, say about or push a topic. If you said something to Mom already? Let her think on it and provide great care for the kid in the meantime, until you maybe notice anything that could put the child in danger or a huge change...say nothing more. Seems all most parents want from us is to keep their kid happy and safe while with us....there is a small number of parents who even give a sh** about our opinion on things or our say on anything regarding the raising of their child. took me a while to learn that...I have placed my foot in my mouth many times over the years. It's hard not to when you are with the child sometimes even more than the parent.

[happyheart]

I have had this same experience with other clients as well. Once you make a suggestion to parents regarding their child or put your foot down about their behavior, parents seem quick to pull their kid/s. I've decided I won't say anything to the parents. I will only be with this girl 5 more months at the most so there's really no reason to rock the boat now anyways. I think alot of the problem is also the parenting, they are only having one child so I think they are intentionally trying to keep her a baby baby as long as possible. Alot of their decisions are questionable at best. I changed her diaper today and her diaper rash was so bad it had spread from her bum area all the way up her legs almost to her knees. If my child had a rash that big and painful there is absolutely no way I would ever send her to daycare. I can't imagine how much pain this kid is in. Her rash literally bleeds and her skin is split open. I've seen many rashes and this is the worst by far. I just have to shake my head sometimes. I just don't get it.

[happyheart]

tstep8. Think I see the issue after reading your last few posts. This little one is understimulated at home. If they are allowinga diaper rash to get so bad it bleeds? She is being a little neglected in the diapering area IMO. Therefor, neglected in other areas as well. Not dressed for the proper weather?...neglected . I have learned over the years even the most loving parents can be lazy, this child may not be getting the proper interaction she needs in oder to develope proper at her age. She will catch up in time probly, but for her early years it will seem as if there is a delay. Thank God she is placed with you during the day, you can dress her well to go outside, change her diaper regularly to avoid future rashes, and read to her, encourage her to play with the other children (picking up proper social cues) encouraging her to communicate. Read to her, show her picture books and encourage her to "say what she sees". Not saying the parents are not good parents, but I have seem parents like this over the years, just a little on the lazy side maybe.?

I was thinking the exact same thing this seems so neglectful. Everytime I leave my child with a babysitter, even if it's a grandparent I make sure she has everything she could possibly need. Even in the summer I will pack a hoodie just in case. In the winter she needs a proper jacket mitts, hat, neck roll etc. I can't believe someone would leave their kid here without sending them proper clothes and raging rash so bad the baby can barely move. They bring her in a little vest and short sleeve shirt in November!!!!!

[sunnydays]

Baby talk is a pet peeve of mine too! All three of my kids were early and really advanced in talking and I think a huge part of it is that we speak to them using big words...so they use them too. Another daycare provider was at the park with me one day and my then three year old son was building a sand castle and said something like "I'm going to make a big castle and you'll be so impressed"...the other daycare provider's eyes just about popped out of her head "did he just say impressed?!"...to which I just nodded (he had been saying such things since he was 2). I use big words with the daycare kids too...but it's harder when they have a different thing going on at home...you can only have so much effect...and there are genetics at play as well. She may very well catch up. I have a 19 month old who finally started walking recently and he has suddenly pretty much caught up to others his age...he is talking more, very communicative, lively, running around and riding little bikes etc. He was just a slow starter

[sunnydays]

I would be calling the parents and sending her home to have it checked out by a doctor! That does not sound normal! I ahve seen bleeding rashes...but never one that spread down the legs! That sounds like something that could be contagious and I wouldn't take a chance on it!

I have had this same experience with other clients as well. Once you make a suggestion to parents regarding their child or put your foot down about their behavior, parents seem quick to pull their kid/s. I've decided I won't say anything to the parents. I will only be with this girl 5 more months at the most so there's really no reason to rock the boat now anyways. I think alot of the problem is also the parenting, they are only having one child so I think they are intentionally trying to keep her a baby baby as long as possible. Alot of their decisions are questionable at best. I changed her diaper today and her diaper rash was so bad it had spread from her bum area all the way up her legs almost to her knees. If my child had a rash that big and painful there is absolutely no way I would ever send her to daycare. I can't imagine how much pain this kid is in. Her rash literally bleeds and her skin is split open. I've seen many rashes and this is the worst by far. I just have to shake my head sometimes. I just don't get it.