Bad experiences with day care providers

[mamaof4]

OK- ladies- please. We can disagree--- we can debate but do so without attacking one another.

[Momof4]

OK- ladies- please. We can disagree--- we can debate but do so without attacking one another.

I completely agree with you, but I don't want to be a part of a forum where someone can come on and abuse and attack us at their whim. And I really don't want to leave this forum because I enjoy it very much. I'm surprised that you don't seem to understand the way the caregivers feel at being attacked by this parent, but respect your decision as the moderator. Many people have tried to reason with darasmommy and suggest positive answers for her such as finding a great caregiver next time or a therapist and I think that we have been more than reasonable on our side.

[Serendipity]

I completely agree with you, but I don't want to be a part of a forum where someone can come on and abuse and attack us at their whim. And I really don't want to leave this forum because I enjoy it very much. I'm surprised that you don't seem to understand the way the caregivers feel at being attacked by this parent, but respect your decision as the moderator. Many people have tried to reason with darasmommy and suggest positive answers for her such as finding a great caregiver next time or a therapist and I think that we have been more than reasonable on our side.

I joined this forum several months ago but just recently posted for the first time. I too appreciate from a parent's viewpoint the discussion threads here and do feel as though the responses to Darasmommy were very informational, nonjudgemental and calm at first but then she was allowed to continue her ranting without actually adding anything substantial to the conversation and that was the moment I began to doubt my membership here.

I love differing viewpoints and different opinions as that is what makes the world go round...kwim? I enjoy reading perspectives that I hadn't considered before but the second someone starts getting rude and condescending to others, I cringe because that is EXACTLY what is wrong with society now days. When one person believes that their way is the ONLY way, it is impossible to have an intelligent conversation with them anymore and mud slinging begins.

I know that I will no longer be visiting this forum if people are going to be allowed to continue being so rude and mean to other posters. I have seen several places where a moderator has stepped in and said that everyone should play nice but not once has a moderator actually called out the person who started it.

I am both a provider and a parent and I think that respect is an absolute must from BOTH parties and so far from what I have read here, that hasn't been the case.

I sincerely hope that everyone can just agree to disagree.