Hitting - Managing Behaviour

[MeMe]

As a parent who has a child that hits (5 yrs old) I can tell you that years and years of trying to figure it out why, lead us to a issue of sensory and problems with personal space and autism. I WISH WISH my daycare provider would have been knowledgeable in sensing out the real root of the issue and not just that she is a violent kids CAUSE she isnt.

Hitting and lashing out at that older age is usually a sign of something else, not just violent behavior. My daughter was using it has a coping method to PURPOSELY get in trouble so she could be sent for a time out because she couldnt vocalize that she was feeling overwhelmed and pressure from people around her. Its a strategy she learned from a early age that if she does it, she gets removed and gets to have her breathing space.

We now have taught her that she must not lay her hands on anyone and if she wants space she has every right to take a 5 min cool down and step away to her special spot until she can regain composure and join the kids again.

[daycarewhisperer]

I WISH WISH my daycare provider would have been knowledgeable in sensing out the real root of the issue and not just that she is a violent kids CAUSE she isnt.

It's not the job of a child care provider to find out the real root of the issue. A child care provider should not be put in that position. It's the parents responsibility.

Now if a child care provider WANTS to provide the service of dealing with violence then YES. As long as she is upfront with all of her clients that she offers the service of dealing with violence so THEY know their child will have a high probability of being aggressed upon...

I don't offer that service. My day care parents really wouldn't care what the root of the violence is. They would want to know whether or not their kid was going to be hit. They are purchasing a "zero tolerance" service and they want that every day.

I'm not trained to manage violence. I don't have the skill set nor the desire to work with children who are violent. I know my limits and that is one for sure. A parent with a child who acts out physically would never choose me because I'm not equipped to manage it and I couldn't find a client base who would allow it.