Attachment to Objects

[giraffe]

This post was never EVER about the OP letting the child decide on what object could, or could not be kept... it was about how to help the child learn to deal with her feelings about an object being thrown away or being re-homed.

[daycarewhisperer]

This post was never EVER about the OP letting the child decide on what object could, or could not be kept... it was about how to help the child learn to deal with her feelings about an object being thrown away or being re-homed.

My response was that the solution to it needed to be to let the child know that she ISN'T the one to decide what is to be kept or not kept. That's my reccomendation FIRST to help her learn to deal with her feelings.

First be clear that she doesn't have a dog in the fight. The decision isn't hers. She doesn't get input. She doesn't need to be involved. The adults decide.

Then when she interjects with her fussing then tell her "NO". Leave it and move on.

I realize the OP didn't say the child gets to decide but she did say they weren't being uprfont with the child and showing her they were going to get rid of stuff.

If the child is spiraling out of control with emotions over things then release her from it by making it clear that she doesn't get to decide and the behavior won't be tolerated. Try "no" first. Clear.... exact.. without hesitation....... without equivocation NO and butt out lil missy... we got this.