No energy to run the daycare, should I take energy pills :(

[kidlove]

interesting little fact about neck and back trouble....when your kneck and back are out your body is "off" it goes into overdrive to handle the issue of pain and what not,causing stress..in turn...lowering your immune system. If your back is out, get it fixed soon, the longer you let it go the more wore out you can get in turn causing more stress than you already have and to top it off, it's sick season...your so much more likely to pick up an extra illness due to the stress the back and other issues are causing you. take care of yourself and get your back fixed. ps: hope you don't think I was being mean when I said you failed, hope you understand what I meant by it... in this job we tend to take our position quite serious and when families leave on bad terms we can really beat ourselves up, it's a fact we will do it, so the quicker we can just swallow the fact that this one didn't work aka "failed" the quicker we can get back up and going full force ahead rather than ,think and worry about what has already been done! take care of yourself Disney!

[DisneyPrincess]

Try to make some time for yourself. Get a pedicure, get your hair done, coffee with a friend sat morning. Whatever it is you love, just go do it.

I've been in the Ottawa region for almost two years and I'm sad to say, I have no friends here, my family is all in Montreal. I had my husband that is all ahaha and he is soooo supportive especially these days. But nevertheless, it would be nice to have get togethers with other woman. I wonder if they are other providers getting together here ?? I guess i'll look it up but then, I'm kindda shy to just ''show up''.

Thank you ladies, I do need a good kick in the but.

[DisneyPrincess]

Oh DisneyP, chin up sweetie! You did not fail. You have every right to feel low and wallow in self-pity for a few days if you really need to do that! Anybody who ever suffered from any kind of depression knows that you can't just pull yourself out of it because that's what everyone else expects. Ok, rant over about that!

Now, smile just a little please, breathe please. You know very well that you are better off without this miserable child in your daycare. Look at the ones who are there and smile and have fun and enjoy your stress-free days. That child is not going to have a happy life and her parents had better realize that quickly or they will be in for a world of hurt when she turns into a miserable teenager. Too bad they lost you because you might have been able to help her. IT'S THEIR LOSS! NOT YOURS!

I've been pretty miserable for a few weeks now because we've been housebound due to either pouring rain or freezing temperatures and no sensible weather in between. I've been pounded with personal problems for the past month too and I would be cracking up if I didn't know that I have to stop and breathe and relax for a minute once in a while, take care of myself every evening and take time to pamper myself a little bit and relax. Stress will kill you. Take care of yourself.

I've been getting a lot of enquiries for a daycare space. They are out there starting to look. Keep advertising. Stay positive. Peptalk over! But definitely vent away all you need.

DisneyP --- hahaha you made me smile just there, its sound funny like yo DisneyP yo haha thanks

I know this will sound weird but ''stress'' is my middle name. We have in my family anxiety issues from my grandma to my sister.. hell even to my own kids, its not easy dealing with it. I thought when moving here in Ontario that staying home and opening a daycare and being home for my own children after school would be a more smooth way of life.

I gotta say I was told that it is the parents that kills us the most in this business. And its true ! I'm lucky to have other parents who are amazing

[Crayola kiddies]

I too am in Ottawa Disney and I also moved here away from my family .... Where are you ? I'm near barrhaven !

[gcj]

I hear you on that. I'm north of Montreal....been here quite a while now and it's hard to meet people and make friends. I try to get involved in things, but people have their lives and it is hard to meet good friends....

[DisneyPrincess]

I too am in Ottawa Disney and I also moved here away from my family .... Where are you ? I'm near barrhaven !

I'm near Calypso park... Limoges

[DisneyPrincess]

I hear you on that. I'm north of Montreal....been here quite a while now and it's hard to meet people and make friends. I try to get involved in things, but people have their lives and it is hard to meet good friends....

Montreal QC ??

[playfelt]

I've been in the Ottawa region for almost two years and I'm sad to say, I have no friends here, my family is all in Montreal. I had my husband that is all ahaha and he is soooo supportive especially these days. But nevertheless, it would be nice to have get togethers with other woman. I wonder if they are other providers getting together here ?? I guess i'll look it up but then, I'm kindda shy to just ''show up''.

Thank you ladies, I do need a good kick in the but.

Where are you located? I am in Orleans. Have you joined the CCPRN yet? They have network groups set up that do get together and network. Some areas do a lot of gatherings and others very few but they do exist. The CCPRN also offers a warm line which gives you access to seasoned providers that can be a listening ear.

If you are having pain that gets better and then starts again when you exercise what about seeing a physiotherapist instead. They will be able to look at what exercises you are doing and the muscle groups you are using and work out a safer/less painful way to do it for you.

Expect a "swan song" period for the new girl in the new daycare. The new provider is going out of her way I'm sure to make the child and mom happy. The fact the 3 year old needed to hold her hand means you were right and she is not good at doing anything for herself which you already figured out. Remember it is a mom with a problem who has likely put words and ideas into the child's head and that complicated things. Often the child does do better at the second home not because the first home did anything wrong but because the family realized what they were doing wrong and a new start is good for everyone - old provider included.

You said how much calmer and comfortable your daycare is now. Embrace that and move forward. Do not worry if the 2 year olds are not ready for "school - circletime". Play games, set up matching and sorting activities. That is learning to a 2 year old.

[gramma]

Please dont take this post as whining but more desperate and ''cry'' for help !

Since my last episode last Friday of loosing a child at daycare from dispute or misunderstanding with the parents, that really took a toll on me. I see the girl that left all the time since she's just a few houses away, and she looks at me with such a mean look, no smile nothing, she's just 3 y.o. I guess I did do a super bad job with her... she was really really hard to deal with, never happy, barely smiling. All the other kids I've had where always happy and smily. Is it crazy I feel intimidated by a toddler ! I holds the other provider's hand and has if she's saying ''I'm so much better without YOU !'' Yes loosing the finances is pretty darn frustrating, but the daycare is so much more quiet, less stressful without that one. And the three 2 y.o. I have left are no trouble. They are looking for a lot of my attention though and I know thats normal but I feel so out of energy with everything thats happen. I do activities but they loose attention quickly (they yarn, get up to leave, look elsewhere) so I feel that bit of energy I am trying to give is waisted.

Not getting any request for the past weeks is not brighting up my mood either, plus the winter weather bringing me so down, on top of that I have constant lower back pain and neck pain.

Is it a ''time of the season'' typa-thing ?? Its my first full winter at the daycare ! I know by spring time I will get back on track, well I hope so... but its still months away ! What to do until then ??

I dont drink energy drinks, do you ladies know some natural product/vitamines out there that would boost up my energy and me being less boring ??

First of all, dont take energy pills, they will wreck your stomach. We have all been where you are at one time or another and I think that you are taking the loss of this dcg too personally. We cant always work with everyone. Maybe this dcg knew she couldnt get away with stuff with you and she acted out. She could be on her best behaviour with the new provider but true colours always come out.
As for your low energy, i suffer from the same problem. For me I dont sleep well so I am always feeling low energy and frustration. Maybe take a look at your sleep habits. Are you getting enough sleep? I take a vitamin b supplement and I find that makes a huge difference in my day. If I forget i definately notice a difference. Make sure you are eating right. I know how busy days can make for poor food choices.
I agree with others that your are down in the dumps. Daycare is very isolated and the winter is the worst. I always feel a surge of energy when we can get outside in the spring even though its a pain to get everyone out sometimes. I dont do winter outside time because of the ages of kids I have and I hate winter LOL.
i have felt the way you do and actually am going through the same thing myself a bit at the moment but I find that if I use naptime wisely and do something for myself i feel better. find a crafting hobby, or a good book and a cuppa and enjoy your time. Most of all dont beat yourself up over this dcg, its not worth it. you need to let the frustration go. I know its easy to say and when you are the one feeling down in the dumps its hard to find the motivation to pick yourself up believe me I know what you are feeling. on top of just general frustrations, I am just starting to experience the sypmtoms of menopause which some days makes me downright miserable.
If in fact what your experiencing is depression, none of our suggestions will make a bit of difference. If you suspect that may be it, go see your doctor.
I hope that you can pull yourself up and have some good days ahead, in the meantime we are all here to give you a boost when you need it.

[DisneyPrincess]

I have been with CCPRN from the start... now I just need to renew my membership. I didnt really participate in activities there, they are so far, 40 minutes drive I was stuck a few times during the beginning of my daycare and didnt feel they helped me much. I much prefer this website and its forums.

Here in Limoges, there is quite a lot a daycares now. Close, we are 3 providers that get along great, but we are also neighbours so most dont want to mix personnal life with neighbour life (I had that experience at my other house) Also, I have older girls of my own but they have smaller children, I know they are busy enough with their own lifes.

I guess if there would be a supper get together at like ... East Side Marios or St-hubert for example in Orleans or St-Laurent-Trainyards-Gloucester area... I wouldnt mind once in a while

I guess we are still kindda all strangers so no one would do a at home get together, perhaps after meeting a few times ! I'm 25 minutes away from St-Laurent Center.