Getting parents to realize that it is their behaviour that is causing the issues is one of my pet peeves. When I ask a child to do something I expect it to be followed to the letter. So often a parent says get your shoes but then the child asks for a hug and gets one. The parent of course doesn't see the problem until it gets pointed out. Depending on the parent when I see this about to happen at pick up I will say something with the idea of childA you were asked to get your shoes. You need to do as you are told. Then I will turn to the parent and tell them that I am working on important skills such a staying on task, listening and then following through.