She will carry on a conversation with me when it's on HER terms, she just won't allow me to start.I don't think she has ASD, not that I am an expert by any means, but she's not setting off any bells.
apples, have you ever been around a bigger kid who won't answer when you speak to them? That's my biggest annoyance. I taught mine to answer adults when spoken to. I can't imagine letting a 10 or 11 year old get away with that, but people let their kids do it all the time.