I want to curl up into a ball and cry :(

[Trace of Angels]

Why does it always seem that the first born child always comes with the most challenges????????

[smileyface]

Why does it always seem that the first born child always comes with the most challenges????????

Seriously! It's so true! Pretty much everyone I talk to says their first born is the most challenging and demanding. Maybe it's because at the beginning it was just them, and they got used to getting all of the attention. During the school year, I have my 3 year old in preschool a couple days per week, and the whole daycare dynamics are so much more peaceful... everyone gets along great and is happy. I, sadly, have to wait another year for my eldest to be in school I used to think that full day kindergarten wasn't a good idea for a 4 year old, but now I can't wait... I sound like a horrible mother, but this behaviour is awful to deal with everyday!

[Trace of Angels]

I do think that it is so true and I think it stays that way because when my husband acts up I always say to him "You are such a first born child" LOL not sure if it's that or if he is just being a man though

And you don't at all sound like a horrible mother......I never understood that "Staples" back to school commercial until recently........"it' s the most wonderful time of the year" !!!!!!!!!! I certainly did that dance last year and will be doing it again this September LOL

You are a human and a mother both come with many challenges! Don't be hard on yourself, you sound like a great Mum to me

[smileyface]

Awe, thank you! You have definitely made me feel better! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one feeling the way I do. Motherhood is definitely harder than what I thought it would be!

[sunnydays]

You are not a horrible mother! I was eagerly awaiting my son starting school this past fall as well..LOL and now I am eagerly waiting for him to go back in September...LOL. I think it is very difficult for us moms because we have no back-up...it is just us with the kids alone all day and the wear us out! My kids are better when my husband is home...and I will admit to using the "just wait until your father gets home" line It can be so exhausting when they don't listen well. Today my kids were upstairs and out of the daycare for an hour or two in the morning (with relatives) and OMG it was quiet!!! I almost didn't know what to do with myself...I sort of just stood there wondering what to do for a little while as normally I don't have a moment to sit, to breath, or think. Then when they came back in the noise and activity level went up about 300% My son is very active...he is not aggressive, but needs to be doing something physical all the time...gets bored easily...and when he gets bored he bugs the other kids who are closest to his age (although they are all 3 and under). He drives me insane some days! Honestly, next summer I am putting him in summer camps for a good part of the summer because I don't think I can do this every summer.I get hard on myself too sometimes...feeling like I am not doinga good job because all the dck's follow my rules but my son is all over the place...when I feel like he should be a shining example for the other parents of how a child should behave :0 It's hard. Just try to hang in there, stay firm, try to take a break somehow in the evenings, and it will pass.