Moderating the forum

[daycarewhisperer]

Well, you're late to the party, aren't you? Fine, your comparison of a transgender child to someone with a delusional mental illness who thinks that they are Jesus made me want to puke. Better? Still does not negate either of my points that I actually agree with mamaof4 for shutting down the thread for that reason (if that is the reason she did it), and also not wanting to be lumped in with someone who feels the way you do.

Yes I'm late. I don't normally check this section of the board. I didn't see this until days end.

My analogy made you want to puke. The parents continuing to put her kid in an environment where the adults refused to pretend and lie makes me want to puke. If the parent knew the adults refused to pretend and lie and that is causing the child to have two emergency room visits you would THINK the parent would remove immediately and make sure their daughters minute to minute was filled with adults who would agree, pretend, and lie.

This is a child care board. As a child care provider I would rather be sued to the point where I lost everything I have worked my whole life for and be banned from ever being alone under a roof with a minor child then do ONE DAY where I was forced to pretend and lie to keep my business. I wouldn't refer to a patient who believed he was Jesus as Jesus 30 years ago and I won't call a girl a boy today.

I would call a girl who FEELS like a boy “a girl who FEELS like a boy". I would gladly welcome that child dressing as they please each and every day. I would supply the toys of their choice. I would give the educational foundation that was appropriate for his or her age.... but I would not call the child the opposite sex or refer to him or her in opposite sex pronouns. I would rather be sued off the face of child care.

[Skysue]

This whole topic is so hard for any of us to even grasp. Until we walk a day in the shoes of parents living it.

On the flip side though I think we can all agree 150% that allowing our child to be in an environment that is harmful or hurtful to there well being knowingly is neglect on the parents part period.

Not one of us would do it, what self respecting parent would? That I think is the issue that a lot of people couldn't grasp.

[ladyjbug]

My analogy made you want to puke. The parents continuing to put her kid in an environment where the adults refused to pretend and lie makes me want to puke. If the parent knew the adults refused to pretend and lie and that is causing the child to have two emergency room visits you would THINK the parent would remove immediately and make sure their daughters minute to minute was filled with adults who would agree, pretend, and lie.

This is a child care board. As a child care provider I would rather be sued to the point where I lost everything I have worked my whole life for and be banned from ever being alone under a roof with a minor child then do ONE DAY where I was forced to pretend and lie to keep my business. I wouldn't refer to a patient who believed he was Jesus as Jesus 30 years ago and I won't call a girl a boy today.
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Many people (I was one of them) were able to call the parent poster out for bringing her child back to this care situation knowingly without comparing her transgender child to someone mentally delusional. I stand by my points.

I am also 100% sure that one of your posts is missing from the aggressive child thread. The one where you have suggested that the child was locked at home and kept in a crate in response to her saying he wasn't socialized? I was also shocked by that one, and I know for a fact you wrote those words. That was the post which made the parent react the way she did in her response. I don't know where it went, if you removed it, or if the mods did, but isn't it funny the way the rest of the posts are rational and wonderful advice and the parent looks irrational for reacting to your post? Funny how the removal of just that one post changed the way the forum looked at the post and the way the parent poster is viewed.

This is why I don't want to be lumped in together, mamaof4. If there is a troublemaker causing a post to go out of hand, deal with the troublemaker and don't call us all out. That's all I'm saying. I think it's a reasonable request going forward.

Well, I'm done with this thread. Have a nice day.

[happymomma]

Many people (I was one of them) were able to call the parent poster out for bringing her child back to this care situation knowingly without comparing her transgender child to someone mentally delusional. I stand by my points.

I am also 100% sure that one of your posts is missing from the aggressive child thread. The one where you have suggested that the child was locked at home and kept in a crate in response to her saying he wasn't socialized? I was also shocked by that one, and I know for a fact you wrote those words. That was the post which made the parent react the way she did in her response. I don't know where it went, if you removed it, or if the mods did, but isn't it funny the way the rest of the posts are rational and wonderful advice and the parent looks irrational for reacting to your post? Funny how the removal of just that one post changed the way the forum looked at the post and the way the parent poster is viewed.

This is why I don't want to be lumped in together, mamaof4. If there is a troublemaker causing a post to go out of hand, deal with the troublemaker and don't call us all out. That's all I'm saying. I think it's a reasonable request going forward.

Well, I'm done with this thread. Have a nice day.

I just wanted to say that I have been following all this craziness myself and I also remember this deleted post ladyjbug is referring to 100%. It was ridiculous.

[daycarewhisperer]

Many people (I was one of them) were able to call the parent poster out for bringing her child back to this care situation knowingly without comparing her transgender child to someone mentally delusional. I stand by my points.

I am also 100% sure that one of your posts is missing from the aggressive child thread. The one where you have suggested that the child was locked at home and kept in a crate in response to her saying he wasn't socialized? I was also shocked by that one, and I know for a fact you wrote those words. That was the post which made the parent react the way she did in her response. I don't know where it went, if you removed it, or if the mods did, but isn't it funny the way the rest of the posts are rational and wonderful advice and the parent looks irrational for reacting to your post? Funny how the removal of just that one post changed the way the forum looked at the post and the way the parent poster is viewed.

This is why I don't want to be lumped in together, mamaof4. If there is a troublemaker causing a post to go out of hand, deal with the troublemaker and don't call us all out. That's all I'm saying. I think it's a reasonable request going forward.

Well, I'm done with this thread. Have a nice day.

You are 100 percent incorrect. I have NEVER pulled a post I wrote on this forum. Not once ever. To my knowledge I haven't had one pulled either. The parent came up with the crate line.

Mods should have full access to all posts pulled and edited. They need to step up and clear up the crate post and also confirm that I haven't written what you just accused me of.

I hope you didn't just make this up from thin air. Being mistaken is one thing... doing thisintentionally is quite another. I