Probationary Period Letter...input please & ty

[torontokids]

Are you going to talk to mom verbally about what your specific concerns re: e.g. co-sleeping and nursing to sleep and how this translates to group care? You don't have to mention AP, I think self soothing is a basic skill that he needs to learn. I had a mother who co-slept with her child and he transitioned terribly (I had to sleep train him every week as he was part time). I spoke frankly with the mom and told her that if he is to be successful at dc, he needs to develop this skill and in order to do this she needs to do something different. The mom "got it" and tried but was not able to do it so I terminated. I think if we make it about the child rather then their parenting, parents are often more receptive.

[bright sparks]

Are you going to talk to mom verbally about what your specific concerns re: e.g. co-sleeping and nursing to sleep and how this translates to group care? You don't have to mention AP, I think self soothing is a basic skill that he needs to learn. I had a mother who co-slept with her child and he transitioned terribly (I had to sleep train him every week as he was part time). I spoke frankly with the mom and told her that if he is to be successful at dc, he needs to develop this skill and in order to do this she needs to do something different. The mom "got it" and tried but was not able to do it so I terminated. I think if we make it about the child rather then their parenting, parents are often more receptive.

I will be having a verbal face to face at pick up time but I already have spoken about this so I don't really know how to go about this further without overstepping my boundary as a dcp. I do believe strongly that if what a parent is doing at home effects my day then I have the right to say something, but I can't tell her what to do. Plus, she is so adament that what she is doing is okay that what can I really say?? I think your approach sounds good...

I think self soothing is a basic skill that he needs to learn. I had a mother who co-slept with her child and he transitioned terribly (I had to sleep train him every week as he was part time). I spoke frankly with the mom and told her that if he is to be successful at dc, he needs to develop this skill and in order to do this she needs to do something different.

and it really just deals with how certain things translate to group care versus her parenting techniques and whether I think they are right or wrong.