Rightly offended? . . . or just tired and pregnant?

[Lee-Bee]

If it's in your contract then you are rightly offended. You explained your reasons. I get that they had plans and were hoping to do it how they planned...BUT they signed the contract.

I don't know what else to offer up. If you don't hear back from them then I would expect that they will show up during nap. Maybe come morning if you don't hear back from them they send another text stating that since he did not reply to your first message you will assume that they plan to abide by the signed contract and you will have the child ready for pick up at 3pm.

I'm not sure if it's ok to not answer the door if the come early. Can you willfully withhold their child? Likely not. But if they do arrive during nap I would let them know that by breaking the signed contract they have nulled the contract and care is done. Can you manage without the family in your care?

Personally I would have tried to make it work (in another room with tv on and no contact with child for nap hours), if it's a one off thing I'd have gone with it...but since you stated you would not then stick with it. In this case I would expect my families to follow the contract and be respectful. Waiting an extra 30min on their part shouldn't be a big deal.

[Cadillac]

If it's in your contract then you are rightly offended. You explained your reasons. I get that they had plans and were hoping to do it how they planned...BUT they signed the contract.

I don't know what else to offer up. If you don't hear back from them then I would expect that they will show up during nap. Maybe come morning if you don't hear back from them they send another text stating that since he did not reply to your first message you will assume that they plan to abide by the signed contract and you will have the child ready for pick up at 3pm.

I'm not sure if it's ok to not answer the door if the come early. Can you willfully withhold their child? Likely not. But if they do arrive during nap I would let them know that by breaking the signed contract they have nulled the contract and care is done. Can you manage without the family in your care?

Personally I would have tried to make it work (in another room with tv on and no contact with child for nap hours), if it's a one off thing I'd have gone with it...but since you stated you would not then stick with it. In this case I would expect my families to follow the contract and be respectful. Waiting an extra 30min on their part shouldn't be a big deal.

problem is that I live in a apartment with one family room. the kids sleep in the bedrooms and there is essentially no where for me to go to rest. I'm not gonna lie . . .I NAP!

This child (god love her) would not leave me alone no matter what. she is my difficult kid. I've been playing with idea of letting them go for several behavioural issues but there is only a few months until she starts school and is gone.

[Lee-Bee]

problem is that I live in a apartment with one family room. the kids sleep in the bedrooms and there is essentially no where for me to go to rest. I'm not gonna lie . . .I NAP!

This child (god love her) would not leave me alone no matter what. she is my difficult kid. I've been playing with idea of letting them go for several behavioural issues but there is only a few months until she starts school and is gone.

I donno, I mean if I was the family and had someone caring for my child I would try to make that person happy. I get having to pick a child up for appointments that you can't control etc., but waiting an extra 30min to go to the cottage doesn't seem worth all this fussing. Pretty sure none of my families would be asking this and if they did they would understand and respect when I asked them to wait until the end of nap. You're working hard, you're pregnant (I assume they know) you aren't asking that much of them.

I don't think the issue is you with holding the child or you being inflexible. You are merely trying to withhold the expectations you set in your contract and asking the family to respect that. The big issue here is their behavior and their response to your enforcing the contract. That doesn't sit well with me. Like I said I would have tried to accommodate (but have the space and means to do so) BUT if I had said no, like you did then I fully expect them to act appropriately. These parents are not. That is a problem.