Can I put in some different advice ? Go slow !
We as women have a problem =fix a problem . I fully understand feeling like things have to be figured out now , but I have been through hard times too , figured out everything , started to make the changes and then found away to work it out . I'm not suggesting I know the answers to your problems at all ! My head agrees with everything that has been said ! My experience tells me go slow .
I won't go on and on about it , I know this is a major stressful time ! I feel for you !!!