Fundamental Differences in Parenting Style

[5 Little Monkeys]

Lol stickers as an adult...speechless!! Lol

I agree that the parenting is going crazy these days. I hope if I become a parent I am able to find a happy medium in allowing my children to have a say and choices in what they do but also that they know if I say something, I mean it and they need to respect me. It works well with my dck's so far.

Knowing my luck, I'll have the child that makes everyone cringe LOL

[Secondtimearound]

Hmmm wait a minute ladies !! Stickers and then a reward prize if I get through my week !!! I'm thinking yes !!!! I know what my reward would be !!! Lol

[33 Daiseys]

chocolate brownies, and wine. Wait this isn't such a bad idea after all....

[Secondtimearound]

Lol !!! Right !!!? I was thinking wine and hedge hogs lol but brownies work too !!!

[JennJubie]

Oooo... and pizza and wings! That's my prize!

My husband and I were having a conversation this morning about this kind of thing. We, (as a society), are raising helpless children! I have one dcg here, she is perfectly capable of doing things herself, but she wont. At clean up time today she burst out crying. When I told her 'everyone helps clean up' she laid down on the floor and started sobbing. Then at lunch she refused to eat what I put in front of her, I served mashed potatoes, ham, mixed veggies and apples. She said 'I don't like this' and when I explained to her that that was lunch and there were no substitutes, the sobbing and whining started. It drives me bananas!

[torontokids]

My little guy ate all his lunch today after first refusing to touch it. He later yelled for seconds! I think you guys are right, I just need to do my thing and not worry about the parents but realize that what they are doing will impact him but hopefully I can "un do" their damage as he spends more time with me. Sometimes I feel like we are in a divorced relationship with these families. They are the fun, carefree parent that lets them eat what they want, go to sleep when they want and do what they want.

[JennJubie]

My little guy ate all his lunch today after first refusing to touch it. He later yelled for seconds! I think you guys are right, I just need to do my thing and not worry about the parents but realize that what they are doing will impact him but hopefully I can "un do" their damage as he spends more time with me. Sometimes I feel like we are in a divorced relationship with these families. They are the fun, carefree parent that lets them eat what they want, go to sleep when they want and do what they want.

Perhaps you are just what he needs. Children need rules and structure... if you're the one providing it for him than in the end you will most likely be the one to win his respect.

[Secondtimearound]

I agree !!! Which is why I'm learning that I provide the best I can and let it go !! My sanity is worth far more to me ! If I was raising these kids it would be different but I'm not !

[5 Little Monkeys]

Okay well if chocolate and wine is the prize I want a sticker too!!!

[torontokids]

Beer and Chinese food tonight for me!