Parent with scent sensitivity

[33 Daiseys]

NOSY WI##H.
SHOULD MIND HER BUSINESS OR FIND OTHER CARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!
I am personally sick of when i interview people not understanding that this is my home.
WHERE I LIVE.
NO, I will not take down my children's photos, no i will not take down my wedding pictures, no I will not change my wall colour's, no I will not avoid cooking with children are napping, no i will not redo my child's bedroom to suit your child's likes.
FFS, it these people want a sterile environment, go to a center. If you want a warm home environment use home care. Not that difficult.
The nerve of some people

[bright sparks]

NOSY BIT#H. SHOULD MIND HER BUSINESS OR FIND OTHER CARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!
I am personally sick of when i interview people not understanding that this is my home. WHERE I LIVE. NO, I will not take down my children's photos, no i will not take down my wedding pictures, no I will not change my wall colour's, no I will not avoid cooking with children are napping, no i will not redo my child's bedroom to suit your child's likes.
FFS, it these people want a sterile environment, go to a center. If you want a warm home environment use home care. Not that difficult.
The nerve of some people

Hold on a minute....do you mean to tell me you have had people ask you to take down pictures and change your wall colour because that sounds ridiculous and highly unlikely! I don't think she is being a nosy at all. If she is irritated by something it is her perogative to make enquiry, that doesn't make her a bad person, I think your name calling is extremely harsh and completely unnecessary!

The sitting in your house for 20 minutes and comments about the ice melter are a separate issue and yes it can be irritating when a parent makes comments and we take it a certain way. It does not mean it was meant with any ill intent though, it's all about perception and I'm not convinced by the little info in this post that she meant to be awful and perhaps her nitpicking was nothing more than a bad morning which all humans have. Some things we should let go. Perhaps she felt irritated and wanted to confirm that it wasn't being used again and enquiring as to where it was located might be her simply thinking out loud and making enquiry in order to establish how much of a sensitivity she really has given that they hadn't been burning and their proximity when off. I understand her being cautious of them being on days that her son is in care in the event that his clothing may bring home the irritant, it seems the OP is too, given that she made this allowance for the mother.

I would just reassure her that they are not and will never be used during the hours that her son is care as you are understanding of her situation. And leave it at that. If she trusts you she will not ask again, and otherwise just leave her to her wondering as if they are off they are off and you don't have anything to worry about.

[JennJubie]

And to be very clear, I don't ever turn the warmers on when her son is here simply because I know it irritates her. I don't want to take the chance that it might irritate him, too or that he might take it home in his hair or clothing. But she's making claims that he's coming home smelling like the Scentsy even though I have not been turning it on.

[Fun&care]

Tough issue....I myself am sensitive to scents. I guess i will play devils advocate but I really, really hate perfumey/smelly stuff. I've also read articles that said indoor air fresheners are linked to a bunch of illnesses such as allergies, asthma etc...so I NEVER use air fresheners ever because I don't feel they are safe enough to use around kids nor are they really necessary and I choose to clean with natural cleaners. So maybe that's where this mom is coming from?

As for the salt issue I wonder if again it's just a matter of her feeling uncomfortable with her child coming into contact with chemicals. I don't necessarily blame her, although you can't be expected to clean up 24/7, salt is just a part of living in Canada in the winter.

[33 Daiseys]

yes i have, my room is painted a warm terracotta red, and is for the wee one's in playpens. a mom i interviewed last week, asked if i planned on changing the colour since red is linked to anger. Had parents say that they don't like a boy sleeping in a girls room, can i redecorate it to make it more gender neutral. had potential clients comment abut all the family photos, and how it will make their child uncomfortable since there won't be any picture of said child in the main part of the home( i do have random pic's of dkc in the playroom mind you).
this has been in the last 2 weeks, so i am very very sore about it, and am getting a bit tired of people not understanding that this is my home.
I never vent, and this is something that is very personal and a real sore spot. Sorry if it offended you

[bright sparks]

yes i have, my room is painted a warm terracotta red, and is for the wee one's in playpens. a mom i interviewed last week, asked if i planned on changing the colour since red is linked to anger. Had parents say that they don't like a boy sleeping in a girls room, can i redecorate it to make it more gender neutral. had potential clients comment abut all the family photos, and how it will make their child uncomfortable since there won't be any picture of said child in the main part of the home( i do have random pic's of dkc in the playroom mind you).
this has been in the last 2 weeks, so i am very very sore about it, and am getting a bit tired of people not understanding that this is my home.
I never vent, and this is something that is very personal and a real sore spot. Sorry if it offended you

I never said, nor implied that I was offended by your vent. This is the exact place where venting is allowed. What I did say was that my opinion was that it is not okay to name call and I made a comment that I highly doubt that those things were said, not that they weren't or that you were lying but that I found it hard to believe. Sounds like you have had a steady stream of unbelievable potentials coming through your door so explains why you are sore, but it's a little different than someone with a scent sensitivity. I also don't like to paint everyone with the same brush.

[Lee-Bee]

yes i have, my room is painted a warm terracotta red, and is for the wee one's in playpens. a mom i interviewed last week, asked if i planned on changing the colour since red is linked to anger. Had parents say that they don't like a boy sleeping in a girls room, can i redecorate it to make it more gender neutral. had potential clients comment abut all the family photos, and how it will make their child uncomfortable since there won't be any picture of said child in the main part of the home( i do have random pic's of dkc in the playroom mind you).
this has been in the last 2 weeks, so i am very very sore about it, and am getting a bit tired of people not understanding that this is my home.
I never vent, and this is something that is very personal and a real sore spot. Sorry if it offended you

Wow...what a funny group of people you've interviewed!

I often wonder what my DCG thinks about the fact here are a bunch of large photos of our daughter and myself and husband hanging over her crib! She lies there staring at them everyday! But never would I remove family photos from our walls to make a child more comfortable!!??!! That's some serious parent guilt at play... removing photos from a wall won't make any child feel more at home.

I have read research on the impact of wall colour on children's behavior (it was actually part of our ECE curriculum) and red is indeed linked with negative behavior, so while I wouldn't paint my house red...no parent can expect you to change the colour in order for them to sign up. If they don't like it, they need to go elsewhere. But maybe that's why they were asking if you had planned to change it, because it is a deal breaker for them and they wanted to ensure it was staying red?

[33 Daiseys]

the funny part it that it is the most beautiful shade. I wish i could post a picture.. Its more like a deep redish- orange. This is in my bedroom, an i picked the colour because it honestly helps me sleep. The rest of my house is done in sage, tan, creams such. I spent 6 months deciding on warm calm peaceful colours, and a ton of money and effort to make our home look like a home. And its makes me want to cry sometime the lack of respect we get towards our homes from daycare parents and children. Eg the other poster who was talking about dcd using her table to take of kids boots. I would have tossed them out and been done with them. My husband bought me my dining room set for my 30th birthday.
The basement/ toy room daycare room is done in pink , blue, yellow with all white ikea furniture. I then have the coloured square foam pads, with the 6 ikea mats on top ( you know the ones that look like car race tracks and such. I then have decals and pictures all over the walks.