Nothing more frustrating than an MD who says "Don't worry about it"

[flowerchild]

That is frustrating!

How does Nana feel about it? Is she frustrated too? Would she go back to the doctor with a detailed letter from you outlining your concerns? I wondering if Nana may not have been as informative as she could have been with the doctor?

Are there any community agencies that she could self-refer to?

[bright sparks]

That is frustrating!

How does Nana feel about it? Is she frustrated too? Would she go back to the doctor with a detailed letter from you outlining your concerns? I wondering if Nana may not have been as informative as she could have been with the doctor?

Are there any community agencies that she could self-refer to?

I think there is a good chance that Nana didn't pass on all the specifics to the dr. You know how it is with anyone when we are given a lot of information sometimes we don't retain it all. In hindsight I should have given it her in writing to take with her.

Nana said to me that if the doctor isn't worried then she isn't either. So if I were to follow up with her with a bunch of resources and a written report of my observations at this time, I think it may just be stepping over the line a little. Whether I like it or not, she has told me she isn't concerned and she did follow up on my request to see a dr who has said that he is fine. My plan of action is to continue documenting my observations and then maybe in a couple of months if there are no improvements then I will give her something in writing. Unfortunatly, the dr said that it is really normal for 3 year old boys to do things on their terms and work on their own timeline. I get it, I really do having a boy of my own, but delays accompanying other behaviours turn into clusters which are red flags so would raise an alarm bell that perhaps this isn't a straight forward late bloomer and some further assessment can not harm to be looked into. Now this dr has planted something in Nana's head that is like saying "how long is a piece of string?" At what point is it cause for concern? In the US they aim for early detection prior to age 3 because there is a lot they can do in terms of catching these kinds of things at a crucial time when they can have a much greater chance of reversing and repairing things. Seems here in Canada, the framework in place is a lot of, lets wait and see.

[Lee-Bee]

Doctors can only respond to information presented clearly. If the grandparent didn't advocate and be clear about the concerns then the doctor would likely miss most things in a short doctor visit. Do you feel confident the information you have observed was presented as needed? I would suspect that at this point in time the grandparent likely still isn't advocating for the child needs.

I wouldn't give up your efforts because the doctor hasn't acknowledge your concerns. You, as one person, can only do much but what you do will make a difference.

As for toilet training I would look for visual pictures to help the child express his needs and for the child to consult for every step of the toileting process. I've used PECS in the past in school/daycare settings but you can likely find all sorts of good pics online to use.

[bright sparks]

Doctors can only respond to information presented clearly. If the grandparent didn't advocate and be clear about the concerns then the doctor would likely miss most things in a short doctor visit. Do you feel confident the information you have observed was presented as needed? I would suspect that at this point in time the grandparent likely still isn't advocating for the child needs.

I wouldn't give up your efforts because the doctor hasn't acknowledge your concerns. You, as one person, can only do much but what you do will make a difference.

As for toilet training I would look for visual pictures to help the child express his needs and for the child to consult for every step of the toileting process. I've used PECS in the past in school/daycare settings but you can likely find all sorts of good pics online to use.

I know at Halton resource centre they have a program where they have visuals that can be made into books or stuck up in places as queues. I'm not sure of the name of the program but it sounds similar. I may reach out to them also for support.