Toy Hog

[MsBell]

Thanks Ladies, I have been doing a lot of those ideas too, but this little one is very stubborn, and it seems a little unfair to the others that I keep taking the toys away. These toys are little, like some of the little people, and these little princess figurines I have. I think we are into our third week of this, and everyday its the same deal, she hoardes them, and as soon as another wants to touch them, thats when she freaks, because she's "playing with that". I also don't force the kids to share all the time, but this is weird, she is not playing with the toys, just either sitting on them, or stashing them in the backpack. I am thinking of putting them away for a good long time, next week when she comes, they are just gone? But then I second guessed myself, thinking perhaps I am the one with the issue? I have had kids not want to share toys they are playing with, but this is just a bit different, almost like she is instigating conflict in a rather passive way, perhaps this is a game to her? Having me play into it too, makes it exciting. I will say, here she is a good kid, listens to direction,stays with the group etc, but at pick up and drop off with mom, major nightmare attitude.

[flowerchild]

Thanks Ladies, I have been doing a lot of those ideas too, but this little one is very stubborn, and it seems a little unfair to the others that I keep taking the toys away. These toys are little, like some of the little people, and these little princess figurines I have. I think we are into our third week of this, and everyday its the same deal, she hoardes them, and as soon as another wants to touch them, thats when she freaks, because she's "playing with that". I also don't force the kids to share all the time, but this is weird, she is not playing with the toys, just either sitting on them, or stashing them in the backpack. I am thinking of putting them away for a good long time, next week when she comes, they are just gone? But then I second guessed myself, thinking perhaps I am the one with the issue? I have had kids not want to share toys they are playing with, but this is just a bit different, almost like she is instigating conflict in a rather passive way, perhaps this is a game to her? Having me play into it too, makes it exciting. I will say, here she is a good kid, listens to direction,stays with the group etc, but at pick up and drop off with mom, major nightmare attitude.

What if you put the backpacks/bags away and see what she does then?

I don't think you are the one with the issue. None of us are witnessing it or know this little girl....but when I read that last part about nightmare attitude with mom for some reason it made me think it was some type of game playing/behavioural thing.

The suggestion about encouraging her to play with them is good. If she's not playing with them, they can go back on the shelf or bin. People are allowed to have favourite toys, but that doesn't make them off limits to everyone else. Toys at daycare are for sharing.

At this point, I'd either hide the backpacks or the toys for a bit and go from there. Or maybe put away some of the hoarded toys. So, leave the princesses, but put away the little people. Maybe she has so many favourites that she can't choose which to play with? It would also be a good way to see if it's toy-specific behaviour or just about controlling the toys in general.