Issues with neighbourhood kids

[flowerchild]

I feel for you! I would think you need to be firm, really firm. Have them play inside, not outside (easier to direct). If they break a rule (that you have clearly laid out) then firmly, clearly and explicitly tell them it is time for them to go home, they can come play another day when they are ready to listen and behave. Every time they come, kick them out when they don't follow your rules.

I agree with this, except for the inside the house part. No way would they be coming inside my house. They need to earn that privilege and it doesn't sound like that will happen anytime soon.

If you are already having them inside your house, then I think you need to be incredibly firm and incredibly consistent with follow through. ie. "Please don't jump on my couches." Child jumps on couches. "OK, time to go home." Child complains. "I'm sorry, but since you cannot follow my rules, you cannot be in my house. You may try again next time. Goodbye" Same with when outside.

If their mom wasn't going to address her child's behaviour until four or five different people corroborated the story, I wouldn't plan on any support from her. Especially since her first response was "well, what did your kid do to her?"

[MonkeyPrincess]

Thanks for all your Input. It's nice to be able to ask for advice and have multiple people Reply.

the 6 yr old wanted to come over to my house today. Told her no, not todAy. I was caught off guard when she asked why not. I just told her I have all my daycare kids.and I am really busy. It was not the right time to have a chat with her about her behaviour because other parents were around.

When all the dckids were gone she invited herself over to our driveway. my son reminded her of the rules snd get this- she told him to be quiet because he is not he boss of her!. So I spoke up and told her that she was playing at our house and I am the boss here and we have rules if you want to play here. She wouldn't look at me and ignored me as I spoke. I kneeled Down in front of her and reminded her of past incidents and told her she can't play if she is rude doesn't follow our rules. So she left to play on her own driveway. The nerve of the kid!

I have to muster up the courage to say something to her parents. i am usually pretty assertive and well spoken but I do not like confrontation at all..it does a number on my anxiety, especially knowing it's going to be awkward seeing them around the neighbourhood. I dont want to be seen as the neighnourbood bitch who allows.some.kids.ove r and not others. Those kids have mutual.friends with my kids and they are going to be put in the middle and my kids are going.to want to play with the twins but won't because of K and MI. I know I shouldn't be concerned with what others think, especially since the kids are in the wrong but I have given them way too many chances.

[MonkeyPrincess]

I agree with this, except for the inside the house part. No way would they be coming inside my house. They need to earn that privilege and it doesn't sound like that will happen anytime soon.

If you are already having them inside your house, then I think you need to be incredibly firm and incredibly consistent with follow through. ie. "Please don't jump on my couches." Child jumps on couches. "OK, time to go home." Child complains. "I'm sorry, but since you cannot follow my rules, you cannot be in my house. You may try again next time. Goodbye" Same with when outside.

If their mom wasn't going to address her child's behaviour until four or five different people corroborated the story, I wouldn't plan on any support from her. Especially since her first response was "well, what did your kid do to her?"

They haven't been allowed to play in my house for a few.weeks now, not since MI just walked.into my house when my front door was open but my screen door was closed. I always always lock it but the one time I forget......