Furious at this parent!!

[playfelt]

As annoying as the parent's reaction is the problem is we are already being paid to supervise the children and that includes during naptime. So if we leave them unsupervised and they wake up and decide to play then it is really on us not the parents. At the same time getting up and playing with your daughter's toys or reading one of her books is one thing but doing what was done is wilful destruction but how long would the child have to have been awake unsupervised to do that degree of damage.

[kindertime]

Oh and if you did go that route, get an upholstery needle. They are curved for use on flat things where you can't pull through to the other side.

[bright sparks]

As annoying as the parent's reaction is the problem is we are already being paid to supervise the children and that includes during naptime. So if we leave them unsupervised and they wake up and decide to play then it is really on us not the parents. At the same time getting up and playing with your daughter's toys or reading one of her books is one thing but doing what was done is wilful destruction but how long would the child have to have been awake unsupervised to do that degree of damage.

I'm furious at the parents response to this behaviour by taking her kid to get ice cream. It is our responsibility to watch their child, but if it was intended for a child to be watched over for every single minute of naptime, rates would be higher and the ratio would be 1:1. Obviously this is impossible.

How many times as a provider left the room to pee and come back two minutes late to find all sorts of havoc has let loose. Also this is a naughty kid, who goes out of his way to be deceitful and he has a track record. I check every kid at least once an hour and should there be any noises, much more frequently. This child has been with me for over 3 years. One incident at naptime when he was on a nap mat on the floor was when he very quietly got up, removed his soiled diaper and smeared poo all over the carpet. Is that really as a result of me not doing my job properly? Or simply the reality of a caregiver seeing a child sleeping at routine checks and going about their other tasks for naptime. He has been sleeping in our rooms for over a year and there hasn't been a single incident. He gave me no cause for concern regardless of how he behaves during awake hours. I didn't charge this parent for the poop because it comes with the territory, but if I can not trust a child to lay down and sleep or rest, or do as they are told without fear of them being destructive, then what am I to do? Don't under estimate a child who is acting destructively with intent and full knowing that what they are doing. Sneaky and smart, even at this age. I've turned my back for a minute and seen him push a kid off the chair because my back is turned. I've heard this kid say to another kid when a chair was given up, "come and sit here quickly before so and so comes back" That is really nasty and malicious behaviour for a 4 year old. Fitted sheets, off in a minute or two maximum. Picking pulling at threads. He would have only had to have got to pulling just right to start that hole and the rest is history once he got his fingers in it.

[5 Little Monkeys]

As annoying as the parent's reaction is the problem is we are already being paid to supervise the children and that includes during naptime. So if we leave them unsupervised and they wake up and decide to play then it is really on us not the parents. At the same time getting up and playing with your daughter's toys or reading one of her books is one thing but doing what was done is wilful destruction but how long would the child have to have been awake unsupervised to do that degree of damage.

Yes, that's a good point too. I've had children break (on purpose) items but I've never thought to make the parents pay as I feel I should have been supervising better. One of my old dck's was sooo disruptive during nap and that's the reason Ive invested in 2 video monitors lol. Checking in on them 1-2x an hour wasn't enough with this child!

However, she has it in her contract so the parents should be prepared to pay if she asks. I do agree with another poster that it may be hard to make them pay though.

It really sucks though because it is a high ticket item!

[bright sparks]

Yes, that's a good point too. I've had children break (on purpose) items but I've never thought to make the parents pay as I feel I should have been supervising better. One of my old dck's was sooo disruptive during nap and that's the reason Ive invested in 2 video monitors lol. Checking in on them 1-2x an hour wasn't enough with this child!

However, she has it in her contract so the parents should be prepared to pay if she asks. I do agree with another poster that it may be hard to make them pay though.

It really sucks though because it is a high ticket item!

Even with a video monitor, I'd have to sit staring at it constantly. It's unrealistic to do that. Also I'd need to purchase numerous given that these kids don't all sleep together. I think it's completely acceptable to check in frequently without the need for these cameras. So this sounds like a toss up over the question of whether I was supervising properly or not. This wasn't damage that occurred because I wasn't in the room when I should have been, or a child playing inappropriately. This was malicious behaviour from a child old enough to know better during a time when he shouldn't have done this and should be able to be left unattended TO NAP, with regular check ins. He did not have any kind of track record at nap time regardless of how he acts outside of nap time. He never ever gave me cause for concern. He's a kid after all and can't always control his urges or realize the consequences of his actions. Shit happens to all of us. Again though...my concern and anger is not actually directed at his actions merely his mothers rewarding with ice cream and lack of discipline and how this has directly contributed to him being a toxic little three year old when he is at daycare. I mentioned at pick up today that I was waiting to hear back from Sealy about getting it fixed but it didn't seem likely. I also said that the brick has mattresses 50% off currently so at least it would be a much cheaper replacement. She laughed and said something to her son along the lines of come on kid I'll have to go search for a second job if you carry on like this.