I think I am pretty chill with my own kids but maybe a bit more vigilant with the daycare kids as I don't want something to happen. That being said, I don't hover.

I agree that parents are very different nowadays. I let my own kids play by themselves upstairs (daycare is in the basement) or be alone upstairs on the couch/their room when they're sick and I've had parents questions this.

As a parent, I wouldn't be comfortable with my provider driving my kid in their car. I don't think this makes me unreasonable, it is just a risk I don't want and I would pick a different daycare. I don't think this makes me a helicopter parent, I just would have concerns as I don't know what kind of driver they are etc.