Dilemna with trying to change daycares

[lisapisa]

To be honest, I didn't originally want to share why we want to change daycares because I didn't want it somehow turn into a "she's right, you're wrong" debate or to hear that we should be doing things differently. We're just really butting heads on a lot of different issues. And this is a case where there was no contract, so we didn't know going in that this was what to expect. We still respect her and wish her all the best going forward. We just realized that we need to find someone whose thoughts and way of doing things better align with ours.

[5 Little Monkeys]

To be honest, I didn't originally want to share why we want to change daycares because I didn't want it somehow turn into a "she's right, you're wrong" debate or to hear that we should be doing things differently. We're just really butting heads on a lot of different issues. And this is a case where there was no contract, so we didn't know going in that this was what to expect. We still respect her and wish her all the best going forward. We just realized that we need to find someone whose thoughts and way of doing things better align with ours.

I respect you for not "bashing" your current provider and also for recognizing that it's best just to leave. Some parents try to get us to change our ways to accommodate them, not giving any thought to as why we do things the way we do and without thinking of the other kids in our care. Sometimes there isn't a right and wrong way, just different approaches and if you think finding a dc that better matches your approach is best, nobody can blame you for that!

You say there isn't a contract but also mention that you need to give 4+ weeks of withdrawal. If there is a bit of a contract, just make sure you follow the rules and the provider will just have to be okay with that. A month is typically plenty of time to find new clients but to be honest, it's not your concern anyways so don't worry. You are right that we all need to look out for ourselves first and in your case, it's your daughters best interest that you need to be worried about.

I would bring your daughter along and just call it a play date or meeting mommy's new friend. If you do find a better dc just be prepared that you may have to pay 2 dc's at once to guarantee the new spot and still adhere to your current providers contract/withdrawl notice. Good luck!!

[Van]

We're just really butting heads on a lot of different issues. .

Yes it is time to leave when butting heads so maybe hold off telling her till you do find a daycare you like and give your notice then
focus on finding one quickly as you don't need to drag it on and the stress that goes with it
Good luck