yeah, I agree that she should have to earn the toy...makes sense. The thing is it's never enough....there's always another excuse to scream.
After 30 minutes, she'd worn herself out and slept for an hour and a half, but we had a MAJOR talk after, and she had to do "velcro" with me all afternoon until pickup. Meaning, she had to stay with me...sitting alone, had snack separately, had to hold my hand on our bus pickup run and even during outside playtime, she waited on the stairs until dad showed up.
After a week away, I totally anticipated this, but now is to time to come down HARD and lay down the law. The parents are very supportive and take it very seriously. As much as I can't take it anymore, I'm not at termination yet in my mind. I've had her for over 3 years, and have her little brother, too, and they are great people.....
Hopefully we'll work it though....