Vent/advice Oh the Drama!!

[kidlove]

OR....it could be more basic like, because she is adopted she tends to "get more of what she wants". Did you say the Mom is also having a hard time dealing? how does she react to the child in front of you? does she seem spoiled or "given in" to alot?

[Dreamalittledream]

OR....it could be more basic like, because she is adopted she tends to "get more of what she wants". Did you say the Mom is also having a hard time dealing? how does she react to the child in front of you? does she seem spoiled or "given in" to alot?

She is a totally different girl depending on which parent is with her. With Dad (who is laid back) she is happy, drops off perfectly, no issues. If Mom drops her off (rarely) or is the one picking her up (most often) she is a demon child in Mom's presence (& Mom says this behaviour goes on all the time at home). It's only with Mom..she can be happily playing, with her back to her...as soon as she sees her she's, screaming & crying. Mom does appear to me to be the one giving in "if you stop crying you will get .... (treat)" (my sense is Mom is just exhausted); whereas Dad pretty much ignores it or is firm.

[kidlove]

Given being "special" in so many ways (hearing aids/adopted) she knows it! And uses it, truely sounds to me like more than anything else (hearing issues/developemental issues) she may just know how to get what she wants out of certain people. I have a 2yr 8 mo old, who is adopted (and very loved) but has some learning delays (was quite neglected the first few months and has a little DNA issue or two maybe) but is VERY intelligent and will "take a mile" if you let her. At home as well as here, there are "no exceptions" she is smart enough to understand right from wrong but has a bit of a "stubborn streak" she attempts to "push" as far as you will let her (just as any other two year old) the way I see it is, she is just the same as any other 2 yr old, delay or not (within reason of course, but I expect her to do just about anything I expect of a just 2 yr old, which is pretty much the same as a 2 yr 8 mo old) when she mis-minds she is disciplined when she doesnt listen she is corrected and if she throws a fit, it's not tolerated. Otherwise she will never learn.