Bad experiences with day care providers

[treeholm]

Just for the record, Darasmommy, an oxymoron is a phrase that combines contradictory terms, (ie. jumbo shrimp, non-working mother etc.) Your use of "judging parents for judging you" is an incorrect use of the term oxymoron. Your phrase would be considered hypocritical. I didn't want anyone else on the list to get the wrong idea from you about what this means. I get a bit obsessive about grammar since my other job (in addition to being a daycare provider) is as a university communications professor.

[sunnydays]

Thank you treeholm...I have my degree in Applied Linguistics and was an ESL teacher until I opened my daycare...I wanted to point this out, but decided not to bother and did not want to embarras anyone for their incorrect assumption that oxymoron was something used in name calling (I suppose it was confused with moron). I am glad you cleared this up for everyone involved

[Momof4]

OK- ladies- please. We can disagree--- we can debate but do so without attacking one another.

I completely agree with you, but I don't want to be a part of a forum where someone can come on and abuse and attack us at their whim. And I really don't want to leave this forum because I enjoy it very much. I'm surprised that you don't seem to understand the way the caregivers feel at being attacked by this parent, but respect your decision as the moderator. Many people have tried to reason with darasmommy and suggest positive answers for her such as finding a great caregiver next time or a therapist and I think that we have been more than reasonable on our side.

[Serendipity]

I completely agree with you, but I don't want to be a part of a forum where someone can come on and abuse and attack us at their whim. And I really don't want to leave this forum because I enjoy it very much. I'm surprised that you don't seem to understand the way the caregivers feel at being attacked by this parent, but respect your decision as the moderator. Many people have tried to reason with darasmommy and suggest positive answers for her such as finding a great caregiver next time or a therapist and I think that we have been more than reasonable on our side.

I joined this forum several months ago but just recently posted for the first time. I too appreciate from a parent's viewpoint the discussion threads here and do feel as though the responses to Darasmommy were very informational, nonjudgemental and calm at first but then she was allowed to continue her ranting without actually adding anything substantial to the conversation and that was the moment I began to doubt my membership here.

I love differing viewpoints and different opinions as that is what makes the world go round...kwim? I enjoy reading perspectives that I hadn't considered before but the second someone starts getting rude and condescending to others, I cringe because that is EXACTLY what is wrong with society now days. When one person believes that their way is the ONLY way, it is impossible to have an intelligent conversation with them anymore and mud slinging begins.

I know that I will no longer be visiting this forum if people are going to be allowed to continue being so rude and mean to other posters. I have seen several places where a moderator has stepped in and said that everyone should play nice but not once has a moderator actually called out the person who started it.

I am both a provider and a parent and I think that respect is an absolute must from BOTH parties and so far from what I have read here, that hasn't been the case.

I sincerely hope that everyone can just agree to disagree.

[dodge__driver11]

Serendipity I agree!!

[mimi]

I agree with the posters discontent regarding the lack of communication from the administrator regarding a posters rude and disingenous remarks. I have alerted the admin myself a few times regarding the posters poor attitude and know other forum members have done so as well. If admin has some view points for us to consider why no action has been taken, I would like to see them. I enjoy this forum tremendously and the last thing I want to read is a post from a bully.

[mamaof4]

Hi there- stepping in here- yes I am aware of the issues, and I have been communicating with individuals but as we are all adults I would assume that no one needs to be taken to task in public.

As far as banning someone goes, I do not have the rights as a mod to ban someone.

[dodge__driver11]

who does then??

[mamaof4]

the admin. Please remember the 'ignore' feature. It can save a lot of headaches.

[Inspired by Reggio]

Hi there- stepping in here- yes I am aware of the issues, and I have been communicating with individuals but as we are all adults I would assume that no one needs to be taken to task in public.

As far as banning someone goes, I do not have the rights as a mod to ban someone.

Mamaof4 just wanted to thank you for elaborating on the policy for dealing with rude or bully style posts. I agree with it is best that individuals are being handled in 'private' but this is very good to know for the future should another 'hot topic' come about because when a public 'knock it off' reminder post is made by a mod to 'everyone' than one can assume if they have notbeen spoken to in private as well that their response was within acceptable manner?