Visiting Smoking Relatives.

[Sandbox Sally]

I personally do not go to places where smoking is permitted 'inside' either ...

I am a smoker. Nobody has ever smoked in our house. Who even still smokes in their house? GROSS.

For the record, before anyone gets all judgeypants, I don't smoke at all during daycare hours, and never in the home.

[Momof4]

I am a smoker. Nobody has ever smoked in our house. Who even still smokes in their house? GROSS.

For the record, before anyone gets all judgeypants, I don't smoke at all during daycare hours, and never in the home.

You sound like one of my daughters who smokes and she has a son but she goes out on her balcony in all kinds of weather and would never smoke in the house or in the car with her son. When you go into her house you would never know a smoker lived there. But I have walked into houses before and it's in all the furniture and just wafting off of everything. I can't even stay in a house like that and I bet that's what Busydaycarelady's Dad house smells like.

I like Mom-in-alberta's advice:

I would just say, to your dad (because it's actually none of your siblings business), "I love you, and want to be around you, but being at your home makes me physically suffer." Can he come cook at your house? Maybe you can host, and dad can do all the cooking?
Even if you went, and nobody smoked the whole time you were there, you would probably still get a migraine, no? At this point, it is imbedded into the drywall and furnishings, if he has been smoking for a while.

(Sorry, I don't know how to do a double quote)

[mom-in-alberta]

I am a smoker. Nobody has ever smoked in our house. Who even still smokes in their house? GROSS.

For the record, before anyone gets all judgeypants, I don't smoke at all during daycare hours, and never in the home.

My judgeypants are in the wash, so you're off the hook today, Alpha.... (jokes!!)