Quote Originally Posted by JennJubie View Post
No one was trying to make it into a competition, we were just trying to give some insight.

As for not blaming him for "something he didn't know he was supposed to do".... he IS an adult, yes? Can he not at least ask what needs to be done? Unless our husbands believe that the housework is done by magical house elves, than they do understand that there is work to be done.

I'm not saying to make him guess what needs to be done, I'm just saying that I understand why the OP is so frustrated. It's a matter of respect. When our husbands do squat and we're working our butts off, and they know we are, it's just disrespectful.
That goes two way. If you are going to expect him be adult and ask why is it not unreasonable that you are adult too and so speak?

Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? LOL

It's only disrespectful of him if he really sees you being unhappy and ignores it but if you are always whining about how he does things when he helping, if you are always telling him you are fine when you are not, if you aren't opening your mouth and taking some responsibility for not resolving the situation, you are being disrespectful to whine behind his back when you don't have the sense to speak to his face.

You would rather spend 5 minutes arguing about being right with me, than speaking to the man you are meant to love and explaining that you aren't happy about something in your house? That makes no sense because winning or losing a word battle with me changes nothing in your homes. LOL

Why not go fix things rather than complain to strangers about disrespect?

Do you not think it's disrespectful to complain to strangers yet not give same data to husband? That is crazy.