Am I being an ass?

[mimi]

I completely understand what you are feeling bright sparks. I have had wonderful compliments from (some) of my dc families and they go right to my heart. It is because we treat their kids like our own and when they say something kind we think "yes, they get it, they understand how I feel and appreciate all I do" Then you get kicked in the teeth with their withdrawl of appreciation and it really hurts.
Part of your pain of course is your huge loss of income, especially at this time of year. That is really hard to take especially when they complain about having to pay a deposit etc. to the other provider. I don't think however, I would have gone to their home to discuss. As Dad said so cooly is is just business, so their issue should have been discussed where business takes place, in your home.
Aside from all this, I would include the kids in the party. Two wrongs don't make a right even though I completely understand you wanting to omit them. You say you care for these girls alot, so give them the send off they deserve. Don't not include them because their parents are insensitive dorks.
Myself, I have toughen up due to similar experience. Hard lesson to learn but it will keep you from becoming so emotionally invested in your business. I hope I have helped in some way and you feel better.