Honestly from a parents perspective I would NEVER chose a child care provider who had small children of her own.

Parents can be very protective of their own child and providers with yong kids in the mix are especially vulnerable to seeing things from their child's point of view only.

NOT saying that is the case in this situation but just saying as a parent I would go out of my way to avoid this type of situation for this very reason.

In this case, the provider explains her child's actions as accidental yet the daycare parent sees it as deliberate. I wasn't there so I can't say what really happened but avoiding providers with young ones at home eliminates this kind of problem at all.

Plus, this mom may not have been trying to be rude but helpful instead or maybe just offering her opinion and the provider took it as an insult or as meaness aimed at her child so her (provider) reaction was to protect her child and stick up for her.

Just saying that when it comes to your own children, your views can often be skewed by the fact that they are yours.