Serendipity, I do not get the sense providers post's regarding their appreciation gifts are posting to show how much they are loved - as if it is a competion. We seem to be a mature bunch who don't need to stoop to childish behaviour. I am sorry you see it this way. Not one gift that I received did I perceive as a "guilt gift". I hope I never stoop to that level as a gift recepiant. I don't measure my gifts. The dkd who gave me the 85.00 dollar earrings is the kindest parent all year. He is also really absent minded, so when I saw the price tag on the gift I laughed as I knew that was so like him to forget. Why wasn't it a 100.00 gift? Really? I appreciate the home made brownies as much as the earrings and all gifts in between.
We complain about our dc parents because while most are great, they can do dumb things which grate on our nerves so we vent here. It is a perfectly healthy thing to do. Yes, I see the gift lists posted as informational and not bragging. It is nice to hear about providers being appreciated especially this time of year and I love to read what others receive. If a provider received a HUGE gift, I wouldn't have the attitude that my gifts pale in comparison, it would just be good for you!!!

I don't measure life by cost or price tag and most folks I know don't. I am sorry you have the idea that this is the norm. Thank you for your perspective, but please don't make assumptions about people's motives, especially at this time of good cheer, and call some liars. Not nice.