At a loss....need some advice!

[Errbear]

I would continue with our regular routine and put her in her chair for lunch and if she throws it on the floor that means meal time is over and it's time for bed. Call me "mean mommy" but I never allowed that from my children and I most certainly will not allow it from anyone else's. I've had my fair share of difficult children when it comes to transitioning and in the end I've noticed with all of them that staying consistent with the rules and routines has helped them get it. I don't clean up anyone's lunch of the floor anymore

I'm with Spixie about the not going to starve at your house part. My own personal position on eating and drinking is that it's our job as parents and providers to give them their meals and drinks, and it's up to them to eat or drink. We can't force them. If she doesn't want it when it's being offered then put it away until the next snack/meal time. She'll take it when she wants it.

Kids should come with a daily warning. "I'm not going to eat today", "I'm going to hit all my friends today", "I'm going to go mute today and leave you to figure out why"...kids.....gott a love them LOL


After pick up today grab a bottle of vino, draw a bath and drink yourself into oblivion..,.tomorrow is a new day. Good Luck!!!

[mom-in-alberta]

Kids should come with a daily warning. "I'm not going to eat today", "I'm going to hit all my friends today", "I'm going to go mute today and leave you to figure out why"...kids.....gott a love them LOL

Wouldn't that be fantastic?! A little bubble pops up over their head at drop-off, just to warn you what kind of day you are about to have.... Hahahahaha.

On a serious note; I think you are right in sticking to your "guns". Sitting at the table to eat is not negotiable. Cry, scream, disrupt everyone else, you will be removed for a period of time. Throw your food, and the food will be removed. Give her a couple of pieces at a time, and more as she finishes. The other posters are right, she is not going to starve. Just stay consistent. IF you feel like she needs to lay and finish the bottle after lunch, that would be the only concession I would make.