We may be terminated by the end of our second day...

[Lucyskye]

For what ever its worth, after reading some of the comments, I am not raising a feral child nor do I keep him in a crate. He is generally a very happy and easy going child. He does get stuck on things...he loves the escalator but gets stuck on it when we go to the playarea (they are less than 20 feet apart). He has a routine for nap, meals, bathtime and bedtime. We go to the park everyday, rain or shine. He plays well on his own with his toys, reads to himself in a quiet room and interacts with us in a fairly constant congenial manner.

Seriously, a couple of you are way off base with your response to my simple request for input.

To those that responded without making me appear to be unfit, thank you. Thank you, for letting me know that kids need time to transition. His behaviour was much improved today and the caregiver was very happy. His aggression and meltdown from yesterday was apparently due to an outing to the playarea in the building (by the escalator). The trip was short because he kept heading to the escalator...meltdown followed when they all had to head back upstairs. He was aggressive but not hitting, biting or fighting.

I believe that he was overwhelmed with the stress of the day and didn't know how to deal with it. We've never even had occasion to get a babysitter for him in is own home much less leave him in someone elses home. I'm not looking to my caregiver to fix everything for us...I am looking for someone who can give us some honest feedback and offer us some ideas on how to approach some things differently. We had a good long talk today and we can both see that he just needs some time to settle in.

[Island29]

For what ever its worth, after reading some of the comments, I am not raising a feral child nor do I keep him in a crate. He is generally a very happy and easy going child. He does get stuck on things...he loves the escalator but gets stuck on it when we go to the playarea (they are less than 20 feet apart). He has a routine for nap, meals, bathtime and bedtime. We go to the park everyday, rain or shine. He plays well on his own with his toys, reads to himself in a quiet room and interacts with us in a fairly constant congenial manner.

Seriously, a couple of you are way off base with your response to my simple request for input.

To those that responded without making me appear to be unfit, thank you. Thank you, for letting me know that kids need time to transition. His behaviour was much improved today and the caregiver was very happy. His aggression and meltdown from yesterday was apparently due to an outing to the playarea in the building (by the escalator). The trip was short because he kept heading to the escalator...meltdown followed when they all had to head back upstairs. He was aggressive but not hitting, biting or fighting.

I believe that he was overwhelmed with the stress of the day and didn't know how to deal with it. We've never even had occasion to get a babysitter for him in is own home much less leave him in someone elses home. I'm not looking to my caregiver to fix everything for us...I am looking for someone who can give us some honest feedback and offer us some ideas on how to approach some things differently. We had a good long talk today and we can both see that he just needs some time to settle in.

I can`t understand why some of these providers respond so harshly. You asked a simple question about transition periods for kids at daycare and some of these responses caught me off guard too...has nothing to do with your original question. The response by daycarewhisperer was totally uncalled for, extremely rude, and didn`t even address your question. If you read some of the questions and responses by some of the providers on here they seem like such bitter, uncaring individuals. I`m often surprised that they even have a daycare business... if parents saw their posts on here they would be surprised. So don`t you worry about the rude responses on here, that`s just how they are. Good luck with your current daycare provider, hopefully she`s a good and caring provider.

[daycarewhisperer]

I can`t understand why some of these providers respond so harshly. You asked a simple question about transition periods for kids at daycare and some of these responses caught me off guard too...has nothing to do with your original question. The response by daycarewhisperer was totally uncalled for, extremely rude, and didn`t even address your question. If you read some of the questions and responses by some of the providers on here they seem like such bitter, uncaring individuals. I`m often surprised that they even have a daycare business... if parents saw their posts on here they would be surprised. So don`t you worry about the rude responses on here, that`s just how they are. Good luck with your current daycare provider, hopefully she`s a good and caring provider.

Just because someone asks a question it doesn't require the responders to answer that question. If someone posts “I'm going to commit suicide. Should I kill myself with a 57 Chevy or a 57 Magnum?", the responders are going to say DON'T KILL YOURSELF.

This is the internet. The op is just a parent who is asking a question. Within her question there were words that mean the question she is asking isn't the real issue. The real issue is having an unsocialized two year old who couldn't make it thru day one without getting aggressive with the kids. THAT'S way more important than how to transition.

And for what it is worth, I am completely out there on the internet. I have been for about three years. I use my real name (Tori Fees)and my clients are completely knowledgeable about my internet presence. They read my blogs on daycare.com, here, and Facebook group. They see my Trademark certificate for my consulting business “Daycare Whisperer" at drop off and pick up.

September 17th will mark my twentieth anniversary in Home Child Care. I've been at this for a long while. I'm interested in REAL conversation regarding child care. It's not bitter or rude to point out a significant issue and to ask direct questions regarding someone's post. It may be that this is the first time this op has been enlightened about her personal responsibility to train her child to mind adults and keep his hands to himself. Trust me, many many parents unleash their horribly behaving kid on child care providers every day without considering the OTHER children who will fall victim to their “lack of socialization".

We aren't obligated to only answer what is best for the op's child. It's okay if we make mention of the OTHER kids and the provider in our response.