I have lost weight in the past by keeping a journal and writing down every last thing I eat and tallying it at the end of the day. You know exactly how many calories you are taking in and can't really be in denial. Also I have done the small portion route. I seem to have gained progressively more weight every time. Wish I could do it for the long haul but I was a professional cook before I opened my daycare and I also love food. My hubby really isn't much help either. He came from a family of unhealthy eaters. I do like to work out though, I got a stationary bike for Christmas. I use that a couple of times a week, then I mix in aerobics and weights throughout the week. I take the weekend off.